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stateoftheart Mon 23-Jun-14 17:57:00

I cant believe this has happened to me!!

Period is 7 days late now. Tested Weds, negative. Tested today, very faint positive.

I have the copper coil in, i've checked and its still in place. I have no symptoms at all.

I have been seeing someone, we regularly have sex. But 8 days ago I had unprotected sex with someone else. Just the once. Given how faint the test is could it be his? But my periods was already nearly due then anyway.

About 14 days ago I had what I though was mid cycle bleed, this could have been implantation bleed??

But the test is so faint.

Oh god my head is everywhere.

Can anyone link to any conclusive evidence of whether there is a possibility. I have looked everywhere.

STOPwiththehahaheheloling Mon 23-Jun-14 18:00:05

Well if period was due 7 days ago and you had sex with new man 8 days ago it sounds like it is the firt guy's. BUT- you may have ovulated quite late so could be new guy's. sorry- no definitive way to know until baby is born.

Would either guy be happy to be a father?

Writerwannabe83 Mon 23-Jun-14 18:03:47

I would think it was unlikely to be the guy you had sex with 8 days ago. I was told that when an egg is fertilised it can take anywhere between 9-12 days before it implants in the womb then approximately another 2 days before HCG hormones have risen enough to be detected by a pregnancy test.

However, there are always exceptions to the rules....

PrincessBabyCat Mon 23-Jun-14 18:05:40

There's two scenarios. One is you have an open relationship in which case sleeping with another person is fine. The other is that you cheated on first guy.

But if you had sex one day before your period was late, it's probably the first guys. You don't ovulate right before you bleed.

stateoftheart Mon 23-Jun-14 18:05:41

would a pregnancy test show up 8 days after conception?

New man isn't a new man but ex husband. Not a great situation. I am afraid there is no way I can carry on with a pregnancy and not know who the father is.

juneau Mon 23-Jun-14 18:05:52

If your period started today then you ovulated 14 days ago (regardless of length of cycle). Whoever you had sex with up to five days before that (so from 19-14 days ago, which is 3-8 June), is most likely the dad.

stateoftheart Mon 23-Jun-14 18:06:34

I didn't cheat. New relationship isn't serious.

PrincessBabyCat Mon 23-Jun-14 18:09:05

I didn't cheat. New relationship isn't serious.

As long as you're both on the same page with how not serious it is, there's not a problem.

Unfortunately it's about to get serious. So do you want either guy in your life the next 18 years?

magpiegin Mon 23-Jun-14 18:09:14

There is such thing as prenatal DNA testing but it is risky so know that some doctors don't recommend . I think that most people do DNA testing after the baby is born.

Good luck.

littleducks Mon 23-Jun-14 18:10:47

Forgetting all the parentage issues i think you need to see a Dr if you have a coil and a positive pg test as the presence of a coil can increase the risk of the pg being ectopic. That's what I was told when I had mine fitted.

extremepie Mon 23-Jun-14 18:11:05

I seriously doubt a test would show up positive after 8 days, I thought the very minimum needed to show a positive result was 2 weeks (I'm no expert though!)

I would say the first guy is the dad smile

TheWickerWoman Mon 23-Jun-14 18:11:06

It's got to be the first guys. That bleed 2 weeks ago sounds like implantation bleeding too.. That would fit the time frame of getting a faint positive now.

SuchSweetSorrow Mon 23-Jun-14 18:12:02

I don't think it would be your ex husband's in that case- are you sure on the dates?

STOPwiththehahaheheloling Mon 23-Jun-14 18:16:10

There's two scenarios. One is you have an open relationship in which case sleeping with another person is fine. The other is that you cheated on first guy.

Dont think OP was asking for suggestions on what tupe of relationship she was in hmm

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 23-Jun-14 18:16:29

Sounds like it is the first guys

NickiFury Mon 23-Jun-14 18:17:02

It's the first guy.

Agree get to a doctor ASAP due to the risk of ectopic pregnancy. I had one and the sooner you find out the better.

Tweetinat Mon 23-Jun-14 18:18:27

If your period started today then you ovulated 14 days ago (regardless of length of cycle).

That's not actually true. The Luteal Phase (between ovulation and period) is generally 14 days, but can be much longer or less depending dung on your personal cycle. My LP is pretty much bang on 11 days but occasionally has been as short as 9 days. That said, I think it's unlikely to be the second man's child in this case as implantation is only likely to have happened now and wouldn't have triggered a positive HPT.

STOPwiththehahaheheloling Mon 23-Jun-14 18:18:32

If your period started today then you ovulated 14 days ago

Her period didnt start today though confused if it had she wouldnt be thinking she was pregnant.

Showy Mon 23-Jun-14 18:21:51

I tested positive 8 days after conception.

And no you do not ovulate 14 days before your period. That's the average. While most women's luteal phase is pretty fixed for her, it can vary quite a bit from woman to woman. Between 10 days and 16 days is considered normal. I ovulate 11 days before my period for example.

I'm afraid it's not possible to know.

NeilDiamondRocks Mon 23-Jun-14 18:24:12

All my tests showed a positive result at eight days...but my cycle was around 22 days. Go to a doctor and also take some time to yourself to properly digest this.

I also tested positive 8 days post ovulation/conception.

KoalaDownUnder Mon 23-Jun-14 18:26:30

I think you need to go to the doctor and get a definite test result before you start panicking too much.

And I hope you don't get judged on here. It's bloody bad enough having a pregnancy scare without that!

BertieBotts Mon 23-Jun-14 18:27:54

I don't think you could know. Timing wise and frequency prob more likely to be guy 2. But if sex was unprotected with guy 1 then that's a higher chance so it probably cancels it out.

But if you're not going to continue the pregnancy does it matter?

Solasum Mon 23-Jun-14 18:34:12

The Fetal Medical Centre and various other places on Harley Street offer antenatal paternity testing. It is done by amnio or CVS, so there is an element of risk. Either way it cannot be done before 12 weeks. They tell you the sex of the baby and risk of downs etc almost immediately. The paternity bit takes up to a week. They would need a blood sample both from you and one of the potential fathers. Cost is around £1000.

macdoodle Mon 23-Jun-14 18:36:08

If you have a copper coil you are high risk for an ectopic pregnancy, go see your doctor.

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