To be annoyed about the date of my friend's baby shower

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

I am prepared for a flaming and to be told I am being a diva but .....

My best friend is having a surprise baby shower and one of her other mates has set up an event page on FB. I gave her 1 date I couldn't do, 1 bloody date, and she has picked it

I bloody hate baby showers but this is my best friend and I really want to go. The reason I can't is because it's my sister's wedding.

[bloated1977]

Maybe she mis-read and thought that was the only date you could do.

[CoffeeTea103]

If it's a surprise then how does your friend know the date? Maybe the person who is organizing it isn't aware?

[bloodyteenagers]

Erm, maybe this was a date the majority could attend

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

My pregnant friend doesn't know the date. Plus I told the organiser quite clearly which date I couldn't do. God, I sound like a right stroppy teenager

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

YANBU. It was very spiteful of that person to pick the one date she knew you wouldn't be able to go on.

[Teeb]

Maybe it really was the most convenient time for the majority.

[phantomnamechanger]

Ouch, I would definitely take this personally - unless I had been approached and told, look, really sorry, but this is the only date that a decent amount of people can make, then I would assume that organising friend had done it deliberately and was trying to steal best friend/make me look bad.

Does best friend know about your sisters wedding? Is organiser likely to be bitching about you 'not being bothered' about attending, or lie outright and say you never told her you were otherwise booked that date?

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

I know majority has to rule but unless she spoke to everyone offline then I think she has just decided on this date because it has suddenly appeared with hardly any posts on the event page. Myself and 2 other people suggested dates and that was out of 10 people.

[ThursdayLast]

Ah well.
Baby showers are boooooooring anyway, you'll be having a much finer time! I'd be delighted to have such a cast iron excuse not to go

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

Yes, best friend does know about wedding so at least she will know why I'm not there.

[ApocalypseThen]

Maybe she had to prioritise the dates family could do?

[MrsMaturin]

Take your friend out to John Lewis or similar the week before the shower, buy her lunch and something nice for the baby. You'll get in first AND have a nice time for the two of you.

[ChasedByBees]

Could you have a rival baby shower?

stir...

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

I will definitely take something over for the baby. Lol, love the idea of a rival baby shower. Sadly, I don't have many mates outside of the people coming to this shower so it could be a poor show

[JustSpeakSense]

YABU it's not all. About you she would have asked others for there preferred dates too.

You can't please all of the people all of the time....

[JustSpeakSense]

*their

[Weathergames]

Oooh!! Is she like the woman off Bridesmaids?!

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

Love that film Ah well, I know this is a first world problem but hey, I'm still miffed. She is officially Off The Christmas Card List.