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Ridiculous argument over a cup of tea

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Pickledmouse Tue 17-Jun-14 18:50:14

I have no idea how this has got so out of hand.

I'm going to say everything that has happened in case it turns out IABU

I got home from work around 5pm, got changed into comfy clothes and watched a bit of TV.
DP got home and asked if I wanted a cup of tea which I did. So he put the kettle on and went out to water the plants.
I started making dinner and the kettle started boiling so I turned it off (it's stove top) and carried on with dinner.
He came in and couldn't believe that I hadn't made the tea.
(This happened yesterday that I turned the kettle off and went upstairs as it seems he often offers to do something and I end up doing it myself - so figured he could make it. )
I got angry since i was actually doing something and left the room saying he could make dinner.
I brought him a cake home from work so he came up with the tea and started to unwrap it.
I told him if he was going to act like an arse he couldn't have it. So he threw it at the sofa next to me.

I was trying not to laugh at this point as it had got completely ridiculous.

Eventually he's stormed downstairs to carry on with dinner but keeps asking what to do. And I'm pissed off so saying he can figure it out himself.

I think we're both too stubborn to apologise so guess we'll go to bed and all will be forgotten by morning (we usually get on really well!).

I know we're both acting like children and should grow up. It feels like I do everything - yes he's stressed at work but surely he's being unreasonable.

ExitPursuedByABear Tue 17-Jun-14 18:54:16

You could have made the tea. It's not like he was sitting watching TV is it?

Although on the other hand.


what sort of cake?

TSSDNCOP Tue 17-Jun-14 18:56:17

He [threw] cake?

Who does that? Who?

TSSDNCOP Tue 17-Jun-14 18:57:08

threw dammit

My indignation has lost the power of italics.

Pickledmouse Tue 17-Jun-14 18:57:50

But I had tomatoey hands ....

I don't even want the cake - I just don't want him to have it.

Andrewofgg Tue 17-Jun-14 18:58:32

Waste of cake. Unpardonable.

susiedaisy Tue 17-Jun-14 18:58:53

If someone offered to make a cup of and I started to prepare evening meal I would leave the tea making to him and carry on cooking. My exh used to do this offer to make a drink flick kettle on and then find something else to do which meant I usually ended up making the drinks. Yanbu

Berryglitter Tue 17-Jun-14 18:58:56

You're both ridiculous and need your heads bumping together.

Pickledmouse Tue 17-Jun-14 18:59:43

It was still partially wrapped up so I think it's salvageable.

susiedaisy Tue 17-Jun-14 19:00:38

Meant to add trying to take cake away from him and him throwing it is both a bit childish.

Wants to know if it was a fruit cake or a sticky cream cake wink

Andrewofgg Tue 17-Jun-14 19:01:21

Oh Pickledmouse in your last post you sound like my gender at its most stupid. Well, there's a feminine streak in all men and a masculine streak in all women . . .

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Tue 17-Jun-14 19:02:20

Throwing cake <shakes head>


hotfuzzra Tue 17-Jun-14 19:02:42


Teeb Tue 17-Jun-14 19:03:17

If someone tried telling me I couldn't have cake because they were pissed off with me, I'd see red too.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Tue 17-Jun-14 19:05:32

Now punching cake on the other hand...

HeartsTrumpDiamonds Tue 17-Jun-14 19:06:52

Oh OP please tell us that this is a lemon drizzle cake!

PuppyMonkey Tue 17-Jun-14 19:07:43

Puts it all into perspective, doesn't it? A thread like this. Shocking. wink

mrstigs Tue 17-Jun-14 19:09:11

I'm pretty sure I would LTB if my DH threw cake. [helpful] smile
As for the argument, he asked you if you wanted a drink, so it wasn't unreasonable to assume that's what he would do. You couldn't have known that he would bugger off and expect you to do it instead. All the rest, well that's just both of you being stroppy, it's not that unusual. I've been there myself. Just go and check how dinners getting on in a friendly way and you can both apologise for the storm in an (empty) tea cup.

WitchWay Tue 17-Jun-14 19:09:28

My DH often says "shall we have a cup of tea/coffee?" meaning "will YOU make a cup of tea/coffee?". He never ever ever makes me a drink sad

hesterton Tue 17-Jun-14 19:09:49

You bought cake home for him and then WITHDREW THE CAKE?

I would have left you for less.


hotfuzzra Tue 17-Jun-14 19:11:01

Ok do you want to be a) mature or b) childish?
I see two clear options (and many other possible crazy options)
A) Take him half the cake, and a cup of tea, and say Sorry, I am mental, I love you, laugh about it, eat the cake. Drink the tea. Well done, you are both grown ups!
B) Rub the cake all around the toilet (I'm imagining it's chocolate? Mmmmmm, chocolate cake....) and then either let him eat it, or just leave it all pooey in the toilet. Well done, you are a hilarious prankster! Just don't call the police when it all goes horribly wrong.
Good luck either way! What a top thread!

CoffeeTea103 Tue 17-Jun-14 19:13:44

What cake was it smile

Pickledmouse Tue 17-Jun-14 19:14:32

Hotfuzzra - I'm leaning towards option B.

It is a chocolate cake (with fudge pieces)

Hmm, maybe I do want it now.

Pugaboo Tue 17-Jun-14 19:15:55

Did he actually say "I can't believe you haven't made the tea!"

YA both U btw.

Neither of you deserve cake.

VisualiseAHorse Tue 17-Jun-14 19:16:25

He offered to make the tea, he makes it. Simple really. What he should have asked you was 'shall I turn the kettle on? once it's boiled, can you make me a cuppa?'

What kind of cake.

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