We're invited to the christening/naming ceremony of our friends' son on a Sunday in July.
Not sure quite what the equivalent is in the UK, but probably godparents? As in picked by us and affirmed in church to especially follow up DS throughout his upbringing..
So she's his godparent (or whatever), my best friend, and a single parent. DH knows her well and they get along. She doesn't have a lot of support, or money, and this is a big deal for her. We didn't have any plans for that weekend and have accepted the invitation.
Yesterday he got an invitation to go to his friends' annual tennis tournament and party in Denmark the same weekend. They'll play tennis on Saturday and party all night. He obviously wants to go to the weekend, which is understandable as he doesn't see his Danish friends very often.
However, it's a really important event for DS' godparent, and I feel like it's our duty to be there for her since she's obviously committed to being there for DS for the next 18 years or so...
So I've suggested a compromise. He goes to Denmark, but leaves early on Sunday so he'll make it home in time. He can take a day off work and go on Thursday if he wants to, to make up for the few lost hours on Sunday. The big difference will be that he can't get as plastered on Saturday as he probably would otherwise, and he'd obviously be tired on Sunday from travelling early. It's not ideal, but it is a way for him to make it to both events.
He doesn't want to, because he doesn't want to go to the christening. The weekend in Denmark is more fun and he wants to do that. If he can't do the full weekend he doesn't want to go to either event, so he'll just stay home and sulk.
AIBU to think the compromise is a good (but not ideal) solution so that he can do the fun stuff but still join the christening? Sometimes doing what's right for the family trumps doing what's fun, surely?
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caeleth84 · 17/06/2014 09:49
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