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"Stinky winky" & "fat tummy"

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sparklyskyy Fri 13-Jun-14 07:14:13

Are things my MIL say repeatedly, i.e. on loop, to my DS. To put it into context when she's changing his nappy, he's nearly 1 1/2, she'll sing loudly over and over and over "who's got a stinky winky?!".

Also, she'll repeat in exactly the same way to him "who's got a fat tummy?! Let's see that fat tummy!" etc etc etc.

Sigh. It really winds me up, I don't say anything because I don't want to upset her plus as she's doing us a massive favour by watching our DS once a week when we're both working. But I keep thinking our DS will get a complex sad. I don't want him thinking he's got a fat tummy (he does just now) and thinking it's normally for family to laugh at him for it.

Am I being pfb and unreasonable??

CharmQuark Fri 13-Jun-14 19:53:35

It sounds as if she says these things in a tone of total love and affection and so your baby will pick up no negative connotations . Totally different from telling a child they are 'disgusting' in a serious tone .

She will move on to something different as be grows older. I wouldn't worry about it.

rinabean Fri 13-Jun-14 19:57:07

Fat is a compliment though

Animation Fri 13-Jun-14 20:35:09

I would say - 'will you stop saying that please, I don't like it'.

littlejohnnydory Fri 13-Jun-14 20:52:28

I wouldn't like it and would ask her very nicely not to.

Imsuchamess Fri 13-Jun-14 20:57:37

Wouldn't bother me.

FayeKorgasm Fri 13-Jun-14 21:22:38

I wouldn't like it.
From a very young age, 4 or 5, my mother started saying I had thunder thighs. It carried on for years. In fact, I was a tiny thing and was a gifted ballet dancer. It has had a massive effect on my self esteem and I have had food issues all my life. I still actively restrict my food intake and exercise more than I probably need to, but I still think i have fat legs. I'm in my 40's now.

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