OK - sorry, another wedding thread!
So DP and I are both from the UK (families several hundred miles apart though) and have been living in Asia for just over a year now, we expect to be here at least another 3 years.
We have recently got engaged and I've started thinking about wedding plans. It would be significantly easier for me to have the wedding where we live and avoid having to return to the UK at least once and probably multiple times to check out venues, food, florists etc. using a lot of money and annual leave each time and probably getting regular middle of the night phonecalls. Also trying to please both families and geographically spread friends with the location.
On the other hand with a few exceptions in the US most of the guests would have to travel from the UK. The flight alone is a day in each direction so it's a serious time commitment and it's expensive. The wedding where we live would cost a lot less in the UK so we could contribute to costs for some folks with the difference but certainly couldn't cover the whole cost for everyone.
I know some people will leap at the excuse for an awesome holiday and make it part of a bigger trip but equally I think it rules out a few people. I know it rules out my only GP but she would be unable to go anywhere more than 1/2 an hour or so from home anyway or want to stay for long, so if we plan it around her attending we have very limited options anyway.
To further complicate things although having it here would be simpler it certainly won't be easy, 2 months or so of paperwork including a visit in person to various offices in the capital, you can't just search online for a florist or photographer, will all be word of mouth etc. to help with this my DP is keen to find a wedding planner - personally I can't think of anything worse than having someone else take over my wedding! If I do this I feel like I might as well just find a UK venue and ask them to sort it all. That said I don't want to spend the day running around trying to fix stuff and the bridesmaids will have just flown in so have no chance of helping!
So, I'm appealing to the folks of MN - on balance I'd rather have it where we live than in the UK but is this grabby and unreasonable when we can't pay for everyone we'd like to come and some folks won't be able to come at all?
Also AIBU to react so negatively to the idea of a wedding planner...?!
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Boleh · 11/06/2014 06:48
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