Today's original plan was for me, dp and ds to go swimming and then for dp and ds and possibly me to go and see dp's parents who are visiting ( they live a 10 hour drive away, they're staying with sil)
What actually happened was that dp woke up feeling dizzy for no apparent reason, he went to a+e they said there is nothing obviously wrong and it's probably sleep deprivation, dehydration hangover or possibly a virus, they recommend he sleep for the rest of the day.
Ds is wild, he's 17 months and needs lots of physical exercise. Sil's house is completly un-child-friendly, the garden is beautiful but not the place for a toddler. Sil, mil and sil's grown-up children all smoke so I'd be sat in a cloud of smoke or running around trying to prevent ds from ruining the garden or injuring himself, I'm pregnant, my back is hurting, I don't really want to do either of those things.
Pil want us to visit but they don't really want to look after ds. Pil won't visit us ( I think because we live in an apartment so they have to go up and down lots of stairs to smoke.
As dp is sleeping I called fil and explained that dp and ds were not going to come over as dp has been told to rest/sleep but I was planning on taking ds to a little ( free) petting farm and then the park and they were very welcome to come along with us. Fil said that won't be possible as he was planning on waxing the car and mil was doing some gardening, he said "but you can come later when you have been to the park" I said if dp was awake and feeling better he'd come, but it's likely ds will be asleep by then. Fil sounded pissed off that I wasn't sticking with dp's plans despite dp being asleep.
There is tons of back story, pil are not fond of me, for example they don't great me when they see me but they hug everyone else. They saw ds on Friday but before that they hadn't seen him for 6 months.
Aibu to not stick to dp's plans? We have been to the petting farm, I forgot to bring a snack so we came home, ds is eating his snack ( watching me tumble it's the only way to get him to sit still enough to eat) I'm planning on going to the park soon.
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to not take ds to visit in-laws despite dp's arrangements?
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ikeaismylocal · 07/06/2014 14:24
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