AIBU to want to have a rant?

[MalibuLady]

I had another rubbish day at work with the same rude colleagues and controlling, paternalistic boss and I miss my family.

I live miles away from them and I am not given enough holiday to go and visit them.

My boss is a nightmare and every meeting with my boss literally drives me to drink.

I like my job and I am good at what I do. But my work environment is toxic and my boss is absolutely the worst boss ever.

So I am sitting here and questioning my decision to work so far away from home in such a shit environment.

My grandparents are old and ailing and my parents tell me daily how much they miss me. :( And I am asking myself if it's worth it to be so far away from them for a job that is increasingly making me miserable.

[UncrushedParsley]

Sounds rubbish. At the risk of being over-simplistic, can you look for another job?

[DreamOfMeBaby]

YANBU - you sound like you are having a pretty shitty time all told. I cannot contemplate being away from my family for work, you do very well to do it! It sounds like it's making you v unhappy though...not just missing your family, but your collegues, boss etc etc. Is it time for a change? A new venture...one possibly closer to family?

[MailbuLady]

My family (for reasons I don't want to describe here) live in a different country. Now don't get me wrong, it isn't an awful country to live in by any means, but it isn't a developed nation either. In terms of career options I definitely have better options here in the UK and they want me use those opportunities and develop my career.

[MailbuLady]

I would LOVE to get another job but it turns out it's easier said than done. It took me a year to find this one!

[AgentZigzag]

YANBU, (although you've got your 'i' and 'l' mixed up in your MN name on your last two posts )

How long have you worked there?

Can you give yourself a set amount of time and if it's not better by then to tell your boss where they can shove their job do something 'drastic' and move somewhere you'll be happier?

Is it significant that your parents are telling you daily they're missing you? It just sounds a bit of an off thing to say daily if it's done in a way to pressure you to move back.

[MalibuLady]

I was trying to be more creative with my user name and then I changed my mind and wanted to convert it back to what it is. Got the 'i' mixed up there

[MalibuLady]

No they don't say it to pressure me to move back- in fact, they know it's better for me here and have never asked me to quit my job and come back. Nor will they ever do it.

I am just very close to my family-and we are demonstrative people! So they say they miss me because they genuinely do. Not to get me to move back.

[AgentZigzag]

Aww, it's good your parents aren't hassling you, that must make it worse though, knowing they want you back and that you actually want to go.

What's your boss doing in meetings that's making you feel so crap?

Are they like that with everyone or just you?

Anyone around work who you can take this up with or confide in?

Worst case scenario is that you leave, it's possible to maybe get some control over the time leading up to that and how it plays out?