To try train my husband ??

[thamrin]

Advice please ladies...

So my husband is slowly driving me nuts, AIBU to try to train him?

How do I train him?

Issues:

1. he always "forgets" to brush his teeth. I get it some peoples personal hygiene is on a different level and brushing once a day is ok for some, but sometimes he even "forgets" his once a day brush. It's gross. It makes me look at him and eugh... Not sexy
   
   
2. he eats like an animal that hasn't been fed in a while and stuffs huge portions into his mouth and it goes on his face... Then he tries to lick it off his chin and around his mouth like A tongue windmill. Then licks and sucks each of his fingers clean. Absolutely no table manners.
   
   So I've tried saying something or in public I try ask him to put less into his mouth at once but he only remembers for 1 mouthful then goes back to animal mode.
   
   I DONT want to nag or become a nag. Equally I don't want to resent or feel disgusted by my husband who is otherwise really really sexy! But these things are killing it for me.
   
   Can he be trained? How? Advice?
   
   Or am I being unreasonable and need to get over myself? No bashing please

[Chottie]

Sorry, what you see is what you get. I don't think you will be able to change him at all. The only hope is that if you have DCs and they say something.

[boringlivingroom]

Why did you marry him?

That is disgusting. I would nag him for the teeth brushing alone. Tell him how you feel.

[thamrin]

I married him for many other reasons...

these trivial day to day things to grate though and honestly I'm sure I have some habits which would drive others nuts (as we all do)...

I was thinking about DC saying something to him would be one way but since we are still TTC that's a way off...

Guess I have to either nag or get over it.

buy a book on manners?

[boringlivingroom]

It isn't trivial to have poor personal hygiene and manners

[Only1scoop]

I once lived with a guy like this. I found the lack of personal hygiene disgusting. Teeth should be brushed twice daily.... not once and he also used to barely care if he cleaned them once. Vile. It spilled over into other areas aswell....generally untidy in a disrespectful way. We parted within 6 months.

I don't think these are trivial things personally.

I'm afraid I'd have to just be straight. It's BASIC hygiene and manners we are talking here.

[UtterFool]

I read your title initially thinking yabu but after reading your op have definitely changed my mind. Yanbu!

Generally it's not a good thing to change people but he should have better personal hygiene. Eating like a pig is another matter so not sure about that but can see how it's a complete tyrn off.

I would definitely have a chat about the teeth thing as that's gross.