I'm seven months pregnant and our ds is 20 months. I also have a 6 yr old dd. My elder childrens births were both low risk and went smoothly, so technically a home birth is a possibility. However, our nearest hospital is at least an hour away (worse in regular, considerable traffic so a long way even if in an ambulance) and personally I'd rather not take the risk and would prefer to be in hospital, but aim to be discharged asap as with my first two.
MIL is the only person we have who could have our ds (dd can go to other gps or her dads if necessary) but they really aren't close at all. She has clear preferences for her female grandchildren and has barely made any effort to interact with ds since his birth. She'll ignore him for hours then suddenly chase him saying 'let me eat you!' etc and he'll scream and cry and she'll roll her eyes and walk away. She's never tried just talking to him or sitting down and playing with him, which he'd be fine with.
Since becoming pregnant particularly I've tried to see MIL with ds regularly to get them more used to one another but she's regularly 'busy' (with female grandchildren mostly!) and when baby is due will only have seen ds twice in the nine months, despite only living 15 minutes away. I hate the thought of ds being miserable with her (she gets cross that he won't sit and watch tv and eat chocolate like 'normal grandchildren') while I'm in labour and giving birth and think it could really sour the whole new baby experience for us all, particularly ds.
Aibu to consider having the homebirth and keeping ds happy? He'd be happy at home pottering around and dh/dd could take him in the other room to play if necessary.
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florrielorry · 25/05/2014 23:58
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