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Bride to be telling everyone they can't put the pictures they take of the wedding online but must use an app instead

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AlwaysLookOnBrightsideOfLife Sun 25-May-14 10:54:35 she & groom can see them first, before verifying them and uploading.

I think I've seen it all now. Just saw a message online from a bride to be, telling all her wedding guests that they 1. Can't upload pics they take on the day to fb/other social media, 2. They must use an app instead & send their pics there instead, 3. They aren't to send their pics to the app until 24hrs after the event and 4. The b&g will go through the pics themselves after the event & upload them to social media if they like them .

Aibu to think this is really unreasonable especially for it to be demanded & bridezilla-esque or am I just not in touch with the times? Is she unreasonable in her request or is it a case of their day, their rules? Would you want to go to a wedding that had this rule imposed?

If it helps, her reasoning when not asked was that she didn't want people to see any pics before they got there and spoil what they (the b&g) look like for them. hmm

FatalCabbage Sun 25-May-14 10:57:42

Shouldn't have sent evening-only invitations then grin

It would not be unreasonable to ask guests not to publish photos or video until the day after. The app and photo vetting is hilarious though.

Spinaroo Sun 25-May-14 10:59:18

What do you mean? That one if the bridesmaids takes a pic of the bride before leaving the house, uploads it and a guest waiting at the church sees it? This is truly bizarre!

Jengnr Sun 25-May-14 11:00:39

Why is that unreasonable? Plenty of people ask for pictures of events not to be added to social media.

And plenty of people have sites the pictures can be uploaded to instead, usually so they can have a wide variety of photographs from various perspectives. It's not unreasonable or bridezillary at all.

What's the problem with it?

OwlCapone Sun 25-May-14 11:01:14

I think it's perfectly reasonable not to want pictures uploaded to Social media until the day is over but the rest is a bit control freaky.

StTrop1980 Sun 25-May-14 11:01:50

I think it is reasonable for the bride and groom to ask people not to put pics on Facebook etc, but all the other 'rules' seem a bit much.

If or when I get married I will be politely requesting that people don't splash my wedding pics all over Facebook as I am not into all that stuff myself

EduardoBarcelona Sun 25-May-14 11:02:25

poncey twats

EduardoBarcelona Sun 25-May-14 11:02:58

whats with the " until the day is over'? will the bride be sitting there going through facebook on her wedding day?

SmilingHappyBeaver Sun 25-May-14 11:03:16

Easier to smile sweetly and not bother taking any pictures...

Sparklingbrook Sun 25-May-14 11:03:41

I bet they have signed a magazine deal with OK! or something. grin

They are flattering themselves to think people want to take photos of them at their wedding. hmm

EduardoBarcelona Sun 25-May-14 11:05:34

i think the bride should be bloody grateful anyone is coming and STFU about everything else.


insancerre Sun 25-May-14 11:07:04

The person taking the photos owns them and can do whatever they like with them
Including posting them on Facebook
The bride and groom are being unreasonable if they think they are the exception to this

Sparklingbrook Sun 25-May-14 11:07:15

Yes EB, she sounds like one of those sorts of brides. i wonder what other rules there are. I would be wearing white to that wedding for sure.

scarletforya Sun 25-May-14 11:07:45

Is the bride Kim Kardashian? confused

Sounds very self absorbed. I don't even use social media and even I accept that in this day and age you don't own your own image if you have a public event like a wedding. Dozy cow.

AlwaysLookOnBrightsideOfLife Sun 25-May-14 11:09:08

Fatal those were my exact thoughts on it.
spinaroo No, I think this is for guests. I think but could be wrong that it's so evening guests get the "wow factor" of seeing b&g in person rather than seeing what they look like online first.

Jengnr I don't think the not on social media request or even the app requests in themselves would be u. I think the fact that they want to vet the photos is a bit hmm. Plus I don't think others can see the photos on the app. So unless you, as a guest, were to take plenty of pics on the day then you're limited to b&g choice of what you see. Surely part of the fun at weddings is sharing in other guests experiences through their pics? maybe not though

weneedtotalkaboutshriver Sun 25-May-14 11:09:25

Easier to smile sweetly and not bother taking any pictures...

This ^

They are flattering themselves to think people want to take photos of them at their wedding

And this ^

poncey twats^

But mainly this. ^

But given that I suppose it is reasonable to assume that some photos will be taken I guess it's not unreasonable to ask people to hold back until after the day before uploading....the rest is plain ridiculous. And I could be wrong but I believe ownership/copyright of the photos rests with the person who took them

Perfectlypurple Sun 25-May-14 11:10:30

I agree with not putting wedding pictures on FB if it's not your wedding. The bride and groom might like to see some pictures before everyone else. It's their day.

Sparklingbrook Sun 25-May-14 11:11:00

I can see sort of why they don't want photos on FB etc, but don't understand how they can't see that they can't do anything about it. Funny really.

AlwaysLookOnBrightsideOfLife Sun 25-May-14 11:12:37

I knew I'd miss lots of posts when typing on this tablet.

Sparkling grin to both wearing white & mag deal.

scarlet no, not KK - that I could understand! grin

Perfectlypurple Sun 25-May-14 11:12:59

Also, a girl at work recently got married. I came off FBa while ago so I asked her if she had any photos. She was beyond excited to show me the photos and tell me about her wedding. She hasn't been able to do that much as everyone had already seen the photos on FB.

OwlCapone Sun 25-May-14 11:13:07

Remember in the good old days when you had to wait for films to be developed?

No one needs to see photos immediately. The need to post a picture on social media "right this second" is just as guestzillaish, self absorbed and entitled as wanting people to wait.

KildaTiffany Sun 25-May-14 11:14:02

Ridiculous rules. ignore them. Fair enough to not upload anything on the day. possibly fair to wait till b&g upload a couple of carefully chosen nice images of themselves first so that those mutual friends who can't be there get the "official" version before your amateur efforts - but b&g do not get to vet and censor images generally. That's weird and bridezilla-y.

HappyMummyOfOne Sun 25-May-14 11:15:28

I'd take lots of tacky or out of focus shots and upload them instantly but then I hate over bearing brides that tell adult guests what they can and can't do grin

Whatever happened to weddings where the vows are the most important part and nothing else really matters.

Sparklingbrook Sun 25-May-14 11:16:03

I can't imagine anything more boring than looking at wedding photos of someone you don't know because a friend on FB has posted them.

Anyone that gives a toss about seeing them will already be at the wedding surely, and will therefore have seen it all live so to speak.

AlwaysLookOnBrightsideOfLife Sun 25-May-14 11:18:27

Yes, I don't mind the fact they don't want others to put pictures on Fb before them, that's perfectly understandable.
We were at another wedding recently & the only pic I uploaded that night was to a very private instagram where I tagged the b&g. I didn't share it to fb though as I didn't know if they wanted pics there or not.

I wonder if many people will go with the not taking pics thing. Or taking them but then not doing anything with them.

Does anyone else want to see the b&g in person first for that "wow factor"? Surely you still get that (if you do get that) from a picture. I've never seen a pic before the b&g before where I've thought, darn they spoiled my " wow" moment.

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