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To think that if your feet are small enough to wear these shoes you are too young for high heels?

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unrulysun Mon 12-May-14 21:10:33

I saw these shoes in a branch of Monsoon today. I see plenty of things for little girls which make me roll my eyes but these actually made me stop and stare and then a few minutes later go back into the shop to talk to someone.

The heel on these is a good inch high. My DD is 3 and her feet are size 9. The ones I saw were in a size 7 which I think DD last had when she was 2. She’s not particularly enormous for her age so I think these shoes are definitely for 2 – 3 year olds. I don’t know what size they go down to. AIBU to think that a 2 or 3 year old shouldn’t be walking around in high heels? This isn’t wearing your mum’s high heels this is ‘these are your new shoes’. sad

And yy I know ‘you don’t need to buy them if you don’t want to’ and I won’t buy them. But I care about the little girls who they are bought for. I don’t think any little girl should be put into shoes like this. Frankly I’d be worried DD would twist an ankle in heels this high. She certainly wouldn’t be able to run or play. And I’m sad that these are on sale for little girls. Not in some weird online place but in a high street shop.

I’m going to complain to Monsoon. I would have liked to have given them the feedback instore today but the sales assistant shrugged and said ‘I’m just a sales assistant’ and the manager was ‘too busy’ to talk to –annoying people who think girls should be allowed to be children-- me.

Catmint Thu 15-May-14 08:10:24

Ps I think they are a model of high heels, actually.

Catmint Thu 15-May-14 08:08:17

I can remember shouting " high heels are a firm of social control! " at a boyf who wanted me to wear them. I still think this. I think you can have lovely shoes that still enable you to stay balanced and able and not fuck up your feet for an ideal of beauty that I utterly reject.

And on the subject of Feet, isn't she saying that it is what the shoes represent that she doesn't want to exist ( see above).

I think it is unacceptable to say that Feet is fascist, grocklebox, even if you have crossed it out you have put it there for everyone to see. Dreadful.

PerpendicularVincenzo Thu 15-May-14 07:54:51

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MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 23:02:36

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PurplyBlue Wed 14-May-14 22:59:41

Saying WTF and expressing an opinion about, er, things that you have an opinion about is what you do in a democracy, surely?

No one is going around ripping them off small children's feet and jailing their parents.

PurplyBlue Wed 14-May-14 22:56:03

The assumption that not thinking that heels are right for small children = not liking pretty clothes is a bit of a leap, surely?

FWIW I'm sitting here wearing a pink flowery dress and pink flip flops.

grocklebox Wed 14-May-14 22:55:08

ok, so you dont want them for your kid, so you dont want them to exist for anyone to able to choose.
A bit facist extreme, don't you think?I'll say it again, IF this was about high heels for little girls, youd have a very valid point. But these arenot they.
Good argument, very bad footing, as it were. Fail, Im afraid.

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 21:56:13

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Catmint Wed 14-May-14 21:55:21

They look very, "sit still and be on your best behaviour" shoes to me & that makes me feel a bit uneasy.

I can't walk in heels so my experience is that I feel hobbled and vulnerable in them. So I'd stay away from buying DD the shoes on the OP because they look like they aspire to be a type of shoe that I experience as limiting and I don't want that for my daughter.

We are going to a wedding soon, she'll be wearing a floaty dress and tie dye purple & orange hi top converse. I'll be in fitflop kys.

I don't think I wear ugly shoes btw, that is very subjective.

cardibach Wed 14-May-14 21:46:44

"Sorry I used bug words" doesn't imply she is stupid? Nope, sorry, don't believe you. What comment did she make about your language use? I forget and I can't go back and check. Can't have been as offensive as yours.

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 21:40:22

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cardibach Wed 14-May-14 21:34:24

Having an issue with your words does not mean she is stupid confused
Not following your argument, sorry.

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 21:31:54

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LittleBearPad Wed 14-May-14 21:30:18

And yet you said

"Sorry I used big words. Back to your pretty shoes."

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 21:25:48

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LittleBearPad Wed 14-May-14 21:25:07

I've been at weddings where the men have taken off shoes. Formal men's shoes aren't that necessarily comfortable either.

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 21:24:38

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LittleBearPad Wed 14-May-14 21:24:04

Myfeet why do you think intelligence and a liking for pretty shoes can't go hand in hand?

Sparklingbrook Wed 14-May-14 21:21:06

I can't believe this thread is still raging 2 days later. What a storm in a teacup. Even the OP has disappeared.

cardibach Wed 14-May-14 21:19:56

I rarely wear high heels, MyFeetAreCold but I don't agree with you, I'm afraid. The men at the wedding will take off ties, the women (may) take off shoes. I get your point about bare feet being potentially risky with dancing, but I don't see much difference otherwise. Formal attire is not comfortable for anyone.

Caitlin17 Wed 14-May-14 21:17:10

And that is exactly the sort of response I expected.

No wonder young women are put off feminism. That sort of patronising attitude that being interested in clothes equals no brain is extremely tedious.

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 21:10:33

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Caitlin17 Wed 14-May-14 21:08:36

MyfeetAreCold goodness you sound sanctimonious.

I don't even wear particularly high heels but I do like pretty, feminine shoes,in colours other than black or brown worn with dresses.

"Form over function continuum " and here was me thinking I just don't like ugly clothes.

MyFeetAreCold Wed 14-May-14 20:59:10

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PurplyBlue Wed 14-May-14 20:54:25

btw I speak as an idiot child one who wore 4 inch wedges to school as a 13 year old. But I suppose the difference is, it was somehow a rite of passage away from childhood. I'd still happily wear heels on occasion, if I only could without bleeding and falling over.

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