My DD is 6 months old and has just outgrown her moses basket :( I have moved it and put it under the loft hatch ready to be moved up there when I can be arsed As not to drip feed I should mention that the moses basket was bought by my parents as a gift, from a NCT Nearly New Sale.
Today my Mum asked me if she could have it for my Auntie, I asked her what my Auntie wanted it for and she said she wanted to give it to my cousin, who is currently in her second tri of pregnancy after 4 years trying and a miscarriage in that time too (obviously over the moon for her).
Anyway, as I said no my mum acted as if I was being all unreasonable and reminded me that she paid or it?! I don't think she actually expected me to say no.
I told her that I was saving it for number two and she said 'more fool you, you won't cope with two'.
As it stands, I had severe HG, spent most of my pregnancy in hospital on a drip, lost over a stone and gave birth at 31 weeks. My and DP wanted 2 children, but now we are not entirely sure I can go through it again, I am now high risk for HG and premature birth. We discussed it and said we would keep the baby stuff and revisit the idea when DD turns 2.
Now I'm wondering if I'm being unreasonable, but I feel if I lend out one thing, it will become all things and I won't get them back. It's not just for a possible number two either, but sentimental reason too, but I know my mum would poo-poo those reasons.
She has made me feel mean, but can be toxic so my judgement is muddled.
I should also add, my cousin has not asked me directly, my Auntie asked my mum...
Sorry, this is probably a bit longer that it needs to be
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BumpAndGrind · 12/05/2014 12:46
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