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to think my ex is trying to force my arm into going to CSA?

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mummytowillow Sun 11-May-14 21:04:27

When we split five years ago we agreed an amount for child support, he was happy so was I.

His other ex wife takes him to CSA at least three times a year, her son is now 17 and he pays her the amount the CSA tell him to straight from his wages. They do not communicate and hate each other.

My DD (6) was finally included in the CSA payments and me and other ex wife were awarded the same amount for one child each.

He always said the amount he gives me wouldn't change so I got £70 more a month (not totally fair but I'm not going to say no).

Some months he gives me my money up to two weeks late, cancels the standing order and I'm scrabbling about for money. He ignores calls, text etc and pays it to my account when he sees fit.

I've told him I'll go to CSA and get it taken from his wages and he says nothing. angry

So so do you think that's what he's hoping for so he pays less money every month?

Should I cut my losses and get it taken from his wages (he's a high earner) as I'd at least know I would get it and on time.

But part of me thinks I'm cutting my nose off as I do get it eventually. But the lateness does cause problems.
He has been paying me late for 6 months and messing all my bills up etc (I get money same day I'm paid from work).

SquinkiesRule Sun 11-May-14 22:21:50

Go to CSA save yourself the grief and worry.

deakymom Sun 11-May-14 22:24:10

work out if he will be paying you the same less or more via csa dont forget you have to pay for it now so factor it all in xx

fifi669 Sun 11-May-14 22:31:29

Plus once his other child is over age your payments will increase.....

Get it via CSA

mummytowillow Sun 11-May-14 23:20:25

I'm already under CSA but they wanted us to have bank payments, so it's not a new claim.

I'd get £70 less if I get them to take the money, but at least I'd be getting it.

Just checked my bank and he's given me £150 less than agreed amount. He's a complete dick!

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