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to stock up on toasters and just give them for wedding presents

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hjwhjw Sun 11-May-14 10:35:29

I have three different weddings in the next couple of months. Cue long journeys to see the lists at different shops.

I get they all lived together and don't need anything, if so why do they need 12 fancy goblets and an ice bucket?!

Seen some reduced toasters for 1.93, all new .

Tempted to just buy 10 and finish this boring wedding shopping for the next few years.

Btw I didn't have a wedding list and stressed we didn't want gifts. Some insisted on buying something so we said something handmade or John lewis gift vouchers.

LaurieFairyCake Sun 11-May-14 10:37:48

So you asked for money at your wedding (gift vouchers) and you want to ignore what other people want and buy £1.93 toasters?

Oookkkkkaaaaay..... hmm

JennyPiccolo Sun 11-May-14 10:39:09

A wedding list is just a guide, is it not? You can buy what you want but a cheap toaster does seen a bit mean.

BerniesBurneze Sun 11-May-14 10:40:37

Err yes, yabu!

BeckAndCall Sun 11-May-14 10:41:16

If you can't be arsed to shop, just get them all John Lewis vouchers. After all, you know how useful they are.......

SueDNim Sun 11-May-14 10:43:06

Why do you need to go to the shops to see the lists? Aren't they all online?

Summerbreezing Sun 11-May-14 10:43:12

That's a bit unfair Laurie. They actually said they didn't want any presents and only when some people insisted said Something Handmade (ie cheap) or a John Lewis voucher (ie no trouble). So people had the option of buying nothing (preferred by b&g), giving something very inexpensive but thoughtful, or just spending a couple of minutes on line purchasing a voucher.
Couldn't have been fairer in my view.

whois Sun 11-May-14 10:43:50

A cheap toaster is a shit gift. I'd rather nothing than a £1.93 toaster.

Tinkerball Sun 11-May-14 10:44:15

Laurie where does OP say she asked for money? confused....all she said was she stressed no gifts, that's a big leap you made!

OwlCapone Sun 11-May-14 10:47:45

She "stressed" no gifts and, when asked, then gave suggestions of what to get. Not really stressing no gifts is it?

Summerbreezing Sun 11-May-14 10:48:10

Anyway, I don't think the OP is being 100% serious. Just wearied by the wedding gift circus. There was a time when it was all about helping a newly wed couple to set up home and presents consisted of practical stuff like sheets and pillow cases, saucepans, cutlery etc.
Now some couples just put together an expensive wish list in a dept store, others rudely demand cash gifts only, others actually include bank account details with the invite, and some try to hide their rudeness with a naff poem. I think people are just getting a bit tired of it all.

Shinyshoes2 Sun 11-May-14 10:48:20

I'd do it .... I'm assuming the toasters look more expensive than £1.93

I was skint for a long time last year and all the parties my dd went to she gave a box of maltesers ..

Do it !! It's always handy to have a spare toaster

Summerbreezing Sun 11-May-14 10:49:36

There are some people Owl who, no matter how much you stress 'no gifts' will absolutely insist on giving something. The OP's response was effectively 'if you're going to insist on giving a present please make it something very inexpensive or something that puts you to no trouble.'

OwlCapone Sun 11-May-14 10:49:53

It's always handy to have a spare toaster

No it isn't.

OwlCapone Sun 11-May-14 10:52:18

There are some people Owl who, no matter how much you stress 'no gifts' will absolutely insist on giving something. The OP's response was effectively 'if you're going to insist on giving a present please make it something very inexpensive or something that puts you to no trouble.'

No, if you were "stressing" no gifts you would offer no gift suggestions. Perhaps a suggestion to donate to a charity of their choice but you don't make a suggestion of to what to buy.

ClashCityRocker Sun 11-May-14 10:52:50


I'm sure the bride and grooms would prefer something a bit more thoughtful.

Unless they've put a poem in requesting your 'presence' rather than your 'presents' before going into a long-winded epistle on how they have 'toasters and coasters' (really, are coasters still a thing?!) but would really like you to pay for their honeymoon, so just gimme cash.

Then they deserve a £1.93 toaster.

cece Sun 11-May-14 10:53:24

I want to know where you can buy toasters for £1.93

ILoveWooly Sun 11-May-14 11:00:02

DH need a new toaster for the office, where do you get these bargains?

CoffeeTea103 Sun 11-May-14 11:00:57

No just don't. It's a cheap gift. Rather just not give anything.

IceNoSlice Sun 11-May-14 11:03:26

Why do you have to actually go to the shops? Are the gift lists not online? I have been to many weddings and bought many gifts from gift lists - but never actually in a shop. You just log on, find something about the value you want to spend and buy it, right? 5 mins, max.

Once or twice done on my iPhone in the car en route to the wedding wink

Summerbreezing Sun 11-May-14 11:03:43

I disagree Owl. I have seen situations where people go 'Look I'm going to buy you something anyway, so it might as well be something you want' or 'There's no way we're coming empty handed.' etc etc etc. Sometimes it's actually polite to just graciously give in and say 'well thanks very much. But please don't go to trouble/spend much. We'd be delighted with .<insert cheap/easy suggestion>'.

FoxSticks Sun 11-May-14 11:03:47

Why don't you just look at the lists on line?

OwlCapone Sun 11-May-14 11:08:50

summerbreezing that is not "stressing" no gifts.

And in the case of the OP, she would clearly have been happy to receive a cheap toaster if the guest ignored their wishes and bought a present anyway.

FoxSticks Sun 11-May-14 11:17:07

Would anyone really be pleased to receive a toaster if you already have one? It's not like a chopping board or serving spoon where its conceivably useful to have more than one.

MrsGoslingWannabe Sun 11-May-14 11:22:43

Cheap toasters are bad for the environment so yes YABVU.

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