Are these dirty habits or AIBU?

[PenguinBear]

Some of DP's habits I find quite frankly repulsive and it's caused major rows between us.

Some of things he does which I find disgusting:
-Never washes his hands if he's done a wee
-when he empties his bowels, he'll only rinse his wiping hand with water
-this morning I caught him drinking out of the milk bottle when it's no where near empty (and he has a brown tongue atm so it means no-one else can use it now and it was a 6 Pinter)
-doesn't wash himself everyday

I could go on but these are the main issues that are driving me mad. He thinks IABU and gets very defensive when I confront him.

[Sparklingbrook]

He sounds like a walking health hazard.

[CoffeeTea103]

Was he always this way?

[HillyHolbrook]

YANBU. Take him by the ankle and throw him in a pit of detol. He sounds absolutely gross! Was he always like this or has he 'let himself go?'

[puntasticusername]

I just Googled "brown tongue". And now I feel ill. YANBU.

[charlieandlola]

Wtf is a brown tongue ?

Sounds utterly grim

[Jinty64]

I couldn't live with someone like that. It's gross.

[Dramatic]

What do you mean he has a brown tongue?

I wouldn't be happy either but they wouldn't be deal breakers.

[MsVestibule]

The not showering every day wouldn't bother me, but the rest is absolutely rank. When did you first notice this?

[Foodylicious]

Please list some of his good points

[WhoNickedMyName]

He sounds absolutely repulsive. How can you bear to have him near you?

[TheHoundsBitch]

Fuck me. Just reading that has made me gip.

[Sparklingbrook]

The thing is it's inconsiderate to you (and DCs if you have them). Health wise it's awful.

He needs to see the GP about the brown tongue. How is his dental hygiene?

[WhoNickedMyName]

I've just google imaged 'brown tongue'.

LTB.

[Tinkerball]

Do I really want to google brown tongue?!!

[Sparklingbrook]

It would put me off my buttered crumpets to google but what are the causes of brown tongue?

[AtYourCervix]

Are you frequently ill?

If not then none of his slightly minging habits matter.

[ShanghaiDiva]

Gross - LTB

[Sparklingbrook]

Perhaps OP has built up an ox-like constitution due to living with this AYC.

[AtYourCervix]

I do find a bit of squalour strengthens the immune system.

[Sparklingbrook]

Oh yes

I do think people should wash their hands (both of them) after using the loo though. It's for the best I think.

[PollyCazaletWannabe]

Just googled 'brown tongue' and on ask.com someone has asked 'why do I have a black tongue' and the top reply is 'Congratulations! You are a giraffe.'
ROARING here.

[TheHouseatWhoCorner]

Someone please tell what brown tongue us, I am trying not to Google.

OP, how long have you been together? Has he always had these habits? Does he accept they're grim but do them anyway?

[Sparklingbrook]

Brown tongue.

[WhoNickedMyName]

For those that don't want to google brown tongue, imagine a tongue that looks like it has a thick coating of shit on it.

[HillyHolbrook]

Brown tongue is caused by decaying skin cells on the tongue I think. Vom vom vom. That or excessive nicotine use.

OP, I remember a post you made about your H on a thread in chat. You really can't stand this man, and I hope you can soon make the steps to leave like you said you would if you could.