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AIBU to get the next flight out of here....

(38 Posts)
ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 18:10:34

Home alone with a bottle of wine again.
I never go anywhere, do anything.
Ive spent all day cleaning, picked the kids up from school, hub is at the cricket and Im stuck in.
Im seriously considering packing a bag and flying out to the sunshine for the weekend.
Ill come back .... just want a change of scenery.

darksideofthemooncup Fri 09-May-14 18:15:55

I know exactly what you mean. I've just emptied out a kitchen cupboard for variety. Dh has been playing golf all day whilst I've been at work, picked up Dd, sorted the washing, put tescos delivery away etc etc. I don't even have any wine to cheer me up as I've sworn off booze for a bit.
I realise I am lucky to have what I have, but sometimes the sheer TEDIUM is enough to make me want to gnaw my own head off!

darksideofthemooncup Fri 09-May-14 18:16:48

So no, YANBU

Doingakatereddy Fri 09-May-14 18:28:01

This isn't meant to be judgy pants, but drinking at 6.10pm isn't going to help. If your anything like me, wine will make you maulin and lethargic.

Do you have a project or something you can get your teeth into? Going away isn't a bad idea but perhaps you can spend some time researching it or looking into language courses? Even downloading some on iTunes?

Boredom leads to mischief in mummy's as well as kids grin

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 18:32:55

Honest. Ive only had the smallest amount of wine.
Im just so BORED.
I know I need a job. But what job that allows me to still collect the kids.
If dh just ONCE organised something or did something special that was different from the usual clean, homework, clean, parent, homework, clean parent that I do every single day of the week then it wouldn't feel like ground hog day.
Where can I go? Now?
What can I do now?
I can get a babysitter so where can I jet off to and come back on Monday?
Help gratefully received.

redexpat Fri 09-May-14 18:52:35

I dont know but if you can buy howto do everything and be happy at the airport, it might be useful to read on the flight. Does your dh realise how you feel? You have to find a way to tell him without exploding at him.

How about Dublin or somewhere in france?

redexpat Fri 09-May-14 18:53:32

Have you looked at lastminute.com?

wowfudge Fri 09-May-14 18:55:20

Speak to your DH and suggest something you could do together. I don't really understand saying you are bored - yes routine can be dull, but do you not have any interests or hobbies? I'm stuck with work, study and chores at the moment. Once my exam is out of the way I will be out in the garden trying to make it decent for the Summer and spending time on my hobbies.

DaffodilsandTruffles Fri 09-May-14 18:56:56

Sit down and talk to your DH. Tell him how you feel. Agree some child & responsibility free time for you.

For now? Call a friend and arrange a night out. Tomorrow?

BravePotato Fri 09-May-14 18:58:31

Get a part time job, you'll have soooo much more time.

It focusses you!

wundawoman Fri 09-May-14 19:00:15

A spa weekend away??

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 19:03:06

I don't have any hobbies.
I should get one.
We don't have any money. I like to ride but its super expensive.
I feel tied to the house because it constantly needs cleaning/tidying and then its childcare and homework.
The weekends are spent the same.
Maintaining the house and kids homework.
It relentless.
I cant seem to get dh to DO anything else.
I want to book a trip but how does one person book a trip alone?
Ive only ever done it as a couple.
Im being a bit pathetic (which Im really really not).
I just know that nothing will happen this weekend.
It will be another dog walk, another trip to the duck, homework and mess making.
And then Monday - I will clear it all up again.
Writing this I can hear myself. Whinging.
I see only I can change things.
Im a bit lost I think.
Dh does know how I feel.
I don't know why he doesn't do anything.
I sound all maudling.
Im not really. Just gutted about another Friday night doing nothing.

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 19:04:35

I would have arranged a night out - if I had know.
Too late to arrange.
Part time job is brilliant idea.
I keep looking.
I will work harder to get one.
Anything - anywhere.
It needs to be done.

Patilla Fri 09-May-14 19:08:49

If you're prepared to spend money on flights why not do something within the uk?

Either a day out as a family or a day on your own to somewhere you've always wanted to go? Or a riding session?

Or just a b and b or travel lodge somewhere you've never been. Stay the night, lie in, have breakfast made for you. Go and choose somewhere to go or something to do from the leaflet stand in the foyer? Enjoy the spontenaiety which it sounds as if you might miss.

Or sit down tonight with a glass of wine and choose an evening class you'd like to take. Loads start in September.

The world is your oyster and it needn't be limited to this weekend or at the cost of your family.

FaceDirectionOfTravel Fri 09-May-14 19:11:54

God, the boredom. It is just so boring. I get it.

Have some thanks from me. And go find some funny cat videos on t'internet. grin

extremepie Fri 09-May-14 19:14:26

I know exactly how you feel, I feel exactly the same!

Sooooooo fed cleaning, parenting, school run etc etc on and on relentless with no variety, it makes me want to scream!

Have recently started volunteering one day a week during school hours, only done one day so far but it has been good to have a bit of time where I'm out of the house and doing something smile

Suggestions for right now though....start an argument on MN maybe? That will pass some time and keep your mind ticking over :D

emms1981 Fri 09-May-14 19:16:23

I know how you feel, I used to work part time and it got me out the house 2 or 3 days a week but I had to leave when my husband got full time work, my hours were 8.30-6pm and I didn't get home until 7 so childcare would be an issue,
I'm stuck at home all the time, cleaning and housework seems to take up all my time and never get on top of it, my kids go to bed at 7 but won't sleep and when they do give in I feel like hitting the bottle sad plus I don't have any friends

IDugUpADiamond Fri 09-May-14 19:18:43

Get a part time job, you'll have soooo much more time.

Oh really????
How did I not think of that???

OP YANBU, I've been doing it for almost 10 years now.

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 19:19:38

face yes. First laugh of the evening thanks to you.
Ive ordered a pizza (I never eat that kind of shit) and Im now into the wine.
Which means I wont be driving to the airport (sob).
I think I just wanted to assert my indefuckingpendance.
You know? I can go and do stuff. Im just chained to the house.
pie - ive seen those arguments. Ill watch out for one rather than start one. But thank goodness for AIBU.
patilla - I don't have any money to actually spend. but I was pissed off enough to use the credit card to get the chuff out of here.
Sadly. Its a bottle of wine and pizza.
I shall try to get hub to do something spontaneous and in the meantime - look for a job.
Thanks ladies.
Sorry for self pity.
I have much to be happy about.

Lilaclily Fri 09-May-14 19:23:40

Where do you live? Could you go to London for the day ?
Or is money an issue?

Could you rally some school mum friends for a Friday night book club, knitting club, drinking wine club ?

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 19:24:06

idug there are jobs out there. if youre not too choosy.
im going to get one.

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 19:26:34

Money is an issue. I live in the south east.

I went to London last weekend. i was invited to something and i just said yes and went.

i think im annoyed that dh does NOTHING. nothing unless i organise it etc.

book club. yes. I could join one. I know of some. I just need to ask.

but then I have the stress of getting dh home to take care of the kids.
or the babysitter.

redexpat Fri 09-May-14 19:34:04

I would like to add to my previous post. Another reading recommendation is the 5 love languages. Possibly also the marriage book by nicky and silla lee. Its a bit christian but not overwhelmingly so. Can you reserve them online from your local library? Or amazon them?

ilovemyelectricblanket Fri 09-May-14 19:48:28

red - ive done them all.
again and again and again.

IDugUpADiamond Fri 09-May-14 20:32:04

ilovemyelectricblanket believe me I'm not choosy, I've gone for an exam invigilator job but they've given me so few hours I actually think I'll spend half the money they're going to pay me on petrol. And it's only for 2 months anyway.

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