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To ask teacher why my dc was kept in at playtime and after school.

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finalcountdownofdays Sat 03-May-14 15:13:08

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Forgettable Sat 03-May-14 15:17:30


Are you in England, Wales, Scotland, NI or elsewhere?

This is primary, I guess, and not a private school either?

finalcountdownofdays Sat 03-May-14 15:19:11

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Gurnie Sat 03-May-14 15:24:26

The teacher does not sound good at all. I teach primary school children. This sort of "punishment" is totally unacceptable and frowned on in the school where I work. Yes, we may VERY occaisionally ask the children to all stay in the lunch room a couple of minutes longer than usual if it has been excessively noisy but it's not a regular event by any means.

I loathe whole class punishments. My Dd was in a class like this herself 2 years ago. The teacher would sometimes keep them in for nearly all of their playtime even though she admitted it was only 2 or 3 children that were being silly. It became such a regular occurance that even the sensible well behaved children got totally fed up with it and could see no point it behaving sensibly if they all got punished anyway.

As in your case it didn't work. This continued for most of the year until several parents complained to the headteacher (who is fantastic). Also as in your case there were other incredibly inappropriate behaviours from the teacher......some so crass and awful it was laughable.

She has now left the school.......gone before she was pushed. Go and see the HT rather than the teacher. Yanbu at all.

hakunafrittata Sat 03-May-14 15:24:34

Of course you are not being unreasonable, I don't think the teacher has the right to detain anyone after school hours. He/she sounds like a control freak.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Sat 03-May-14 15:25:14

Teacher has issues. Specifically- he/she meeds to grow the fuck up!

Raskova Sat 03-May-14 15:25:16

Did you post about her keeping them in previously?

It all sounds like bad behaviour from an adult. Your DC should have been allowed out too. Unless he is teaching them I be like a 'team' then I think she's just being mean.

Surely she shouldn't know who complained? She should just know that there are complaints?

deakymom Sat 03-May-14 15:26:56

you have posted before yes? school can't keep children behind without 24 hours notice anyway your parents have the right to go to reception and request your child immediately/on time in future

VanGogh Sat 03-May-14 15:34:25

Time to speak with the head and of that doesn't work, the chair of governors too.

finalcountdownofdays Sat 03-May-14 15:35:24

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Gurnie Sat 03-May-14 15:38:42

Crikey, this could almost be the same teacher! As you have realised as have the kids this approach is unfair and totally disrespectful of the children. I'd write this down in a letter/email to the headteacher even if you've complained before.

LongTailedTit Sat 03-May-14 15:40:35

Sounds like she hates her job and is taking it out on the children - what a piece of work.
The HT needs to resolve this ASAP, regardless of the teacher's seniority. It'd almost make more sense if this was a newly qualified teacher who hadn't yet figured out how to deal with the DC and was cocking it up due to inexperience, but an experienced senior teacher behaving like this is horrible.

finalcountdownofdays Sat 03-May-14 15:41:20

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Gurnie Sat 03-May-14 15:46:15

Oh you poor things! That is dreadful. In the end we got through the year by listening to our Dd and agreeing with her that the situation was totally unfair, that teachers should not be behaving like that but that sometimes you do meet unpleasant people in your life etc etc. Not ideal but a life lesson.

When I spoke to the head the final time (after she had stared at my DD in class and said "Tomorrow we will be talking about UNUSUAL families.....LittleGurnie, you probably have books about them at home" because we are gay parents!) she put her head in her hands and just said "I'm so sorry".

Raskova Sat 03-May-14 15:46:52

I'd still go to them. They were appointed because they're seen capable of dealing with this shit.

If she's a very senior teacher then she's old er . This is something my primary school teachers did. Maybe she's just that old school. Was tAught that way and can't see why it's wrong

pumpkinsweetie Sat 03-May-14 15:48:10

This is so unfair, not a punishment that should ever be used as it punishes all and not just the culprits! Talk to the head

Forgettable Sat 03-May-14 15:50:50

You still need to follow school grievance policy, which will prob go something like:

Complain in writing to HT
If no satisfaction raise with Board of Govs
If no satisfaction write to Education Dept at local authority

Keep contemporaneous notes, signed and dated, of each event as it occurs, from now on. Just for evi if needed.

EduCated Sat 03-May-14 15:52:00

Am I right in thinking your DD is in Y6? If so, can you pull her out for the rest of term? Teacher sounds downright nasty.

If not, I think I'd be looking at moving schools.

Fairenuff Sat 03-May-14 15:52:06

I remember your earlier post. I think you should just go into the class at home time and say "I've come to collect my child". That's what I said on the other thread too. Why don't you must do that?

nennypops Sat 03-May-14 15:52:48

I think you need to go through the complaints system. If the head won't sort it, complain to the governors. Ideally get together as many of the other parents who agree with you as you can.

Peekingduck Sat 03-May-14 15:52:59

Follow the school complaints procedure. Complain in writing first to the Head. After that it will be write to the Chair of Governors, then if not satisfied the DfE.

YouTheCat Sat 03-May-14 15:53:28

Write to the head (even if you know you won't get anywhere) and then write to the governors.

If this person is acting head there is half a chance they will go for the job once it is advertised and this will count against them getting the permanent position.

finalcountdownofdays Sat 03-May-14 16:16:08

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HibernoCaledonian Sat 03-May-14 16:22:00

Just wondering finalcountdown did you mean to put your dc's name as Little - what I'm guessing is your usual NN?

Rhine Sat 03-May-14 16:24:56

This teacher sounds very unprofessional, she should not be taking it out on the children if parents complain. If nothing is done I'd consider complaining to OFSTED.

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