- My lodger is a friend of a friend, she has various disabilities, she is my ideal lodger, I completely rely on this income which basically keeps a roof over my and baby DS's head (on Maternity leave from low paid work and have savings but no pension).
The space I rent out to her is not ideal for her needs but vastly better than where she was previously while she waits on the housing list for a properly accessible flat. I have willingly enabled various adaptations to improve things for her and paid for some.
- I am a wuss about any kind of conflict/disagreement and very sensitive about not wanting to disturb or inconvenience her. She has lots of electrical appliances and understandably the fuel bills have gone up a lot in the last year but when she moved in I calculated a fixed weekly contribution based on previous bills. A really difficult pregnancy and DS arriving very prem mean I haven't recalculated proportions or discussed the increased costs since she moved in last Summer.
I have (fairly willingly) given over the bathroom for her sole use as it is on the same floor as the 2 rooms she rents and there is shower/WC I can use on a different floor.
Should I say anything about her plugging in and trailing the lead of an electric heater into the bathroom?
I am worried about it but is it none of my business? Should I get a safe electric heater installed in there?
How on earth can I renegotiate the amount she pays towards bills?
I really really don't want to BU.
for the avoidance of drip feeding DP is a full time carer for a parent with dementia so we do not live together or have joint finances. We hope this will change one day but it may be several years ahead to be realistic