My man and I have been trying for our first baby for about 2 years now. I did get pregnant once, but I miscarried at about 7 weeks back in October.
I made an appointment with my local (male) GP to discuss our fertility problems, and my man came with me. We explained the problem (actually my partner did most of the explaining because I had to tell the GP about the miscarriage, which wasn't on his records because we were living abroad at the time, and talking about it always turns me into a blubbing mess). Anyways the GP organised two blood tests for me, for the 2nd and 21st days of my cycle. I then asked if he would be organising any tests for my partner, and the GP said "Oh no, you got pregnant once, so we know that everything's fine with him!". Bless my partner, he tried his best, and said "it could've been my one good sperm", but the GP didn't pay attention.
Am I being unreasonable to think that what the GP said is incorrect, and that getting pregnant once doesn't mean that it's unlikely the male-side doesn't have any problems?
From what I can tell by my uneducated googling, about a 1/3 of fertility problems are found to be issues on the female-side, about a 1/3 on the male-side, and a 1/3 remain unexplained. I don't care where the problems lie, I just want to find them if at all possible, and get up-duffed as soon as I can! I don't see why we'd delay testing my partner, when all it means for him is spunking in a cup, and he's perfectly happy to do so.
The GP only asked me questions, not my man. And he asked in particular about how long we'd been together, and whether we were married - for the record 8 years and no - but what relevance does that have?! So I'm thinking that he's just a bit old-fashioned and sexist.
Extra info, just in case: My cycles have always been pretty regular, and uneventful, always a day or two within 28 days long - although my periods have gradually gotten lighter and shorter the last year or so, going from 5 to 4 days. We're both 32. Neither of us have any particular health problems that we are aware of. Don't smoke, and don't drink a great deal. I've tried temping, peeing on sticks (OPK's and fertility monitor), and have gotten familiar with with my cervical mucus (fun, fun!). When we got pregnant I was exercising more than I usually would, so I've recently up'ed the exercising again in hope.
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playg · 02/05/2014 13:21
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