That's it really.
We have two DDs and we don't plan to have more DC. DH is 100% against a third child. I would very much have liked another baby, but now that DD2 is nearly 5 and life has moved on in some ways (career wise for me especially) I know it's not going to happen.
So this is not about planning to have another baby.
But....
I don't know why but I really really don't want him to have it. It's booked for next Friday. He only booked it after I said I thought I was ready. But I'm really not. I can't give a good reason, but it makes me very very upset whenever I think about it.
Bad reasons I've come up with against it are:
- we have contraception that works (I have the coil) so we don't need to do this. Response: this takes away the possibility of an "oops" more thoroughly than the coil.
- the snip can have nasty side effects, what if that happens to you. Response: it's being done by a professional, and the side effects don't affect many people. So yes there is a risk but it's one I have weighed up and am comfortable with.
- what if you do decide you want another child. Response: I don't. Ever.
- you're only 38, what if things change and you do want a child in the future (e.g. if something happens to me). Response: I have two beautiful DDs, and nothing is going to happen to you so don't be silly. And if it did I'd have my hands full dealing with that.
- what if something happens to one of the DDs [I know, I was rather desperate there]. Response: again, don't be silly. And if it did I'd have my hands full dealing with that.
So I know he is being logical and I am not. And I know it's his body and he can make choices about what he does or doesn't do with it.
But....
Ultimately I know IABU. So do I deserve an AIBU flaming...? Or is there a reason for this very big BUT that I can't get away from ?