Apologies in advance if this is a rant.
Dd is nearly 7. Her dad and I have been separated since I was pregnant and since then he's seen her the bare minimum - recently it's two days per month. Dd thinks the sun shines out of his backside. He openly tells her about the trips he, his gf and their son have been on without dd, tells her about holidays abroad and nights out etc. He promises the world and lets her down every time without fail, yet she always excuses him.
He's off at the moment as it's a bank holiday weekend but didn't want to have dd. However, he did do her the honour of popping in today on the way back from a day out with his gf and their son to drop off an Easter egg for her. Half hour later she'd made a card for them telling them they're the 'best daddy, mummy and brother in the world.' He is encouraging her to call the gf mummy because 'she's her brothers mum, so that pretty much makes her her mum too' They've been together for two years.
During the Easter holidays we've been away camping, had three big days out, two playdates, an Easter egg hunt, an Easter party, made Easter cakes and crafts and an sleepover with her friends. Her dad spares five fucking minutes and about two quid and he's a hero....!
I do absolutely everything for dd while he contributes nothing besides this calling the gf mummy crap and still, she thinks hes magnificent. I know she's young still, but surely there comes a point where a little gratitude should be shown? I know it wouldn't be an issue if it weren't for him as I just do what parents do but right now I really feel like not bothering to do anything above and beyond for her because she currently has zero appreciation.
AIBU?
to ask at what age you can expect some gratitude from your dc?
Sampanther · 20/04/2014 21:48
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