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AIBU to pretend I saw nothing?

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Morgause Sun 13-Apr-14 09:54:47

We live on a lane just wide enough for 2 vehicles to pass each other. Also we live on a bend at the top of a hill. We 3 families who live in houses on the inside of the bend never park on either side of the road because houses lower down the hill cannot see if the road is clear to pull out. A few of times we have been asked by the police or support officers to move cars that are causing an obstruction outside our houses (we live near a school) but they haven't been ours. Also few years ago there was an accident lower down and we all received letters asking us not to park on the bend.

If cars are parked there it is also very difficult to get in and out of our drives.

Recently a man living 500 yards down the lane has bought himself a huge 4x4. He doesn't have the competence to park it on his drive without several attempts so has taken to leaving it outside our houses on the opposite side of the road - there are no houses opposite just school grounds. Our neighbour has asked him a few times not to but he pays his road tax and can park where he likes, he says. We have resisted talking to the police about it because that seems petty.

Anyway, last night as I was drawing our bedroom curtains I saw a visitor pulling out of next door's drive and he bashed into the 4X4. I heard the scrape. The driver (a friend of the son of NDN) drove off quickly. This morning I can see that the paintwork is badly scratched.

My inclination is to say nothing, even if asked. AIBU?

WandaDoff Sun 13-Apr-14 09:57:28

You were out last weren't you? wink

Sparklingbrook Sun 13-Apr-14 09:58:20

I wouldn't get involved. 4x4 owner sounds like an arse TBH, and it's up to the scraper to own up if he wants to..

Marylou62 Sun 13-Apr-14 09:59:05

I saw nothing!, Heard nothing! know nothing! Keep out of it!

Sparklingbrook Sun 13-Apr-14 09:59:48

But have a snigger every time you see the scrape.

Canus Sun 13-Apr-14 09:59:51

Normally I'd be happy to supply details of an accident I'd witnessed.

However, my policy when it comes to neighbours is to not say a word. About anything at all. Ever.

You are stuck with neighbours for a long time, and there is no knowing which of them will unexpectedly turn batshit.

You saw nothing, heard nothing, are utterly clueless, whichever neighbour asks.

That's my advice (devoid of any kind of moral compass, clearly!).

Sparklingbrook Sun 13-Apr-14 10:00:43

I wonder if he will now park on his drive. wink

Morgause Sun 13-Apr-14 10:00:44

Thank you. That's how I feel. The man is an arse.

BookFairy Sun 13-Apr-14 10:01:33

I wouldn't say anything either. Your neighbour knows that parking on the road causes an obstruction and sounds quite dangerous. Anyway, it was dark and who's to say it wasn't a passing vehicle wink

thebody Sun 13-Apr-14 10:01:36

Yep keep well out of it.

WhoNickedMyName Sun 13-Apr-14 10:01:52

I think you were maybe dreaming.

You saw nothing.

HannerHet Sun 13-Apr-14 10:03:14

Agree, say nothing

iklboo Sun 13-Apr-14 10:06:17

I'm sure that was the plot on Casual Holby City Oaks last night? Maybe you're thinking of that <whistles innocently>.

OldVikingDudeHidMyTubeSocks Sun 13-Apr-14 10:07:28

I wonder why he cocks up parking it on his drive. IME flash 4x4 are easier to park because of the fancy schmancy reversing cameras and what not.

But yes, don't say anything.

Has he seen it yet? Do come back and tell us his reaction! grin

PenguinBear Sun 13-Apr-14 10:08:49


MangoBiscuit Sun 13-Apr-14 10:11:11

Karma's a bitch. I wouldn't get in her way if I were you. grin

Morgause Sun 13-Apr-14 10:14:36

His house was built in the 1930s and has quite a narrow drive with a bit of a bend - all our houses do.

Wasn't watching BBC last night, I gave up on Casualty many years ago, was happily watch QI repeats on Dave, as usual.

If you have doubts about my honesty an advanced search will show I have posted about parking in our lane before, recently about pavement parking obstructing those with prams, wheelchairs and the partially sighted.

Ilovexmastime Sun 13-Apr-14 10:16:20

I wouldn't say anything, it serves him right. He was warned.

SybilRamkin Sun 13-Apr-14 10:16:29

Has he seen it yet? Do come back and tell us his reaction!


Morgause Sun 13-Apr-14 10:18:10

I may have been lurking in the front room more than usual but I haven't seen him yet.

Morgause Sun 13-Apr-14 10:18:54

Thinking about it, I'd probably have heard him - he's a bit of a boomer.

foslady Sun 13-Apr-14 10:18:59

You did say something - you warned him. What has happened now is consequence, wipe your hands of it and you wete watching QI.....

CloverHeart Sun 13-Apr-14 10:24:22

YANBU! Sounds like e utterly deserves it grin

CloverHeart Sun 13-Apr-14 10:26:30


andsmile Sun 13-Apr-14 10:33:59

say nothing, natural justice, he may think twice about parking there. police arnt going to be sympathetic if they've previously sent letters out.

the 4x4 man sounds like a baffoon.

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