Recently made up with mil and sil after fall out. I did this for sake of dh and dc.
They will not forgive my mother for her part in things (defending me) but I have forgiven them.
I just feel this is all rather unfair that I have been the bigger person, swept everything under the carpet (as mil suggested) and even forgave sil after she threatened to hit me (!?) but they wont forgive my mum for basically giving them a load of abuse they deserved. (They blamed me for a fall out that was dhs doing/ put crap on fb/ phoned me up and said me and dh should split)
AIBU to not seee past this? Should I just continue on as if all is ok in order to keep the peace and have a happy life? I really hate arguments and have already had 2 big fallout a with dh family and my own in past year. I am fed up of arguing. I see others just lettin things go and keeping schtum and I feel I need to dothe same as fall outs depress the life out of me!
I want to be an easy going person and not feel I need to stand up for myself all the time (has been drummed into me from childhood) i just think life is easier to let things go.
But then again my mum is my mum, if mil isn't prepared to forgive her ... Why should I forgive sil for threatening violence- or her ( mil) for starting it all by phoning me and giving me crap in the first place - over an argument me and dh had!
AIBU to ask mil to make up with my mum?
My mum thinks shes nuts, (she is) and couldn't give a flying fuck either way- but she agrees, out of principle really, mil should forgive my mum if I have forgiven her and her crazy daughter.
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Double standards regarding mil
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Odaat · 05/04/2014 19:57
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