AIBU to be a bit annoyed MIL said 'hear you have got a little job'

[MagnaCharge]

I have finally got a job as a TA in a school, the job I wanted trained for straight from school and did from the day I qualified until I had DC1 8 years ago.I was over the moon to have got back into what I have always considered my career ( I am not bright enough to be a teacher).
Then MIL pisses on my chips by saying 'I hear you have a little job'

I said 'yes but not really a little job, back to what I did before'

She said 'no, it's just a little mummy job not too taxing and doesn't matter if you have a few days off with the children'

AIBU to think What the fuck? I worked hard for my qualifications and happen to think supporting children with additional needs is really important. And she should know that seeing as BIL has autism and still lives at home in his 50s because he was not supported to succeed at school.

[Waterfalls1]

YANBU. Congratulations

[humblebumble]

Congratulations, it sounds like you are going to be a great support to the children in your class.

YANBU

[Sparklysilversequins]

Silly Cow.

The term "little job" gives me the absolute rage any way . So bloody patronising. Would anyone ever say to a man, "hear you've got yourself a little job"? Of course not. Why are women's jobs "little"?

[Seminyak]

Whaaaaat!!!! Unvelievable!! The 'little job' comment on its own would be irritating and patronising but she clearly meant it as she elaborated so kindly

[FayeKorgasm]

Don't pay any attention to her. Opinions like that are not worth the breath used to make them!

I'm a community governor of a special school and am very aware of the vital role TA's play in all aspects of school life. Congratulations on your new role!

[hickorychicken]

Well done on the new job and tell the ignorant twunt to piss off .
Just so you know, it is people in your profession that get my family through the week, and make a massive difference to our lives.

[PaulinesPen]

'just a little mummy job..' Aaargh that is soooo patronising Well done! Ignore her.

[ilovesooty]

Congratulations.

She's a cow-try to ignore her.

[Figster]

What a stupid cow she is!!

Good for you OP

She sounds like one of these traditional types who never worked a day in her life

[juneau]

I think I'd have snarkily responded 'Yes, it's all my little brain can cope with'. Patronising cow. I hate the term 'little job' and all it implies.

[HauntedNoddyCar]

A little mummy job? Patronizing mare!

Is your MIL Katie Hopkins? Or a successful captain of industry?

YANBU and well done for getting the career you love back up and running.

[expatinscotland]

'As opposed to being sat on my arse doing a little FA like you,' would be my response to her.

[maggiemight]

Ooooh she sounds veeery envious.

[Chloerose75]

What a bitch

Congrats OP, just ignore her rudeness!

[WorraLiberty]

Congratulations OP

She's probably thinking back to the time (when my now 22yr old) was at Primary School.

TA's were a pretty new thing and most of the posts were taken up by Mums, who pretty much took the jobs because they fell in with the holidays. In fact, they needed no formal qualifications at all.

Things have changed massively since then, but it's likely your MIL doesn't realise this.

Try not to let it get you down.

[Wantsunshine]

She sounds like a bitch. What does her son your DH do that is so amazingly important? Is he the PM a CEO?

[MagnaCharge]

Thanks for the congratulations everyone I am really looking forward to getting back to it.

I didn't think I was being unreasonable but sometimes I wonder if I should have more patience with her.

You are right she is very traditional apparently she used to work in a shop before she had her children but never went back and as I said BIL is in his 50s so you can see how long she has done bugger all.

I held my tongue for the children's sake as they love their Nana and she wouldn't dare have said it in front of DH.

[Laquitar]

That was very silly especially as she has a son with Autism.
However i disagree a bit with Sparkly. My dh's has a second job as dj for weddings. Once a month or less. We all call it 'little job'. And i call 'little job' if someone bakes and sells a cake 2 times a year or does a garden once a year. Some people who do this kind of work make a huge dance about it as if they run the country.It is not the same as working 40-50 hrs pw every single week.
Sorry for the rant. I have 2 people like this doing my heaf in.
I have huge respect for TAs though.

[Longdistance]

Yanbu. I've never heard a anything so patronizing in a long time.

Little mummy job, I would have been tempted to poke her in the eye.

[WorraLiberty]

Not working outside the home doesn't mean she's done bugger all though to be fair.

[K8Middleton]

Ignore her. She is probably just a tit like my fil.

He assumed I had organised two days of childcare a week for the purpose of spending time with my "lady friends". Then made a "little job" remark.

I have a professional job too and I think my blue chip clients value what I do, but I just ignore fil and smile sweetly because the alternative is launching into a rant.

[melonribena]

TA jobs are very hard to come by so you have done brilliantly!!

Congratulations! My wonderful TA is worth her weight in gold!

[K8Middleton]

Congratulations on your new job

[WooWooOwl]

I wouldn't read too much into it. I'm a TA, and I think a lot of people see it as a 'Mummy job' simply because it does fit in with being a mother so well. That's one of the many reasons I do it tbh.

But most people know what goes into being a good TA or LSA, you don't have to credit those who don't with a reaction.