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AIBU to be a bit annoyed MIL said 'hear you have got a little job'

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MagnaCharge Sat 05-Apr-14 14:43:58

I have finally got a job as a TA in a school, the job I wanted trained for straight from school and did from the day I qualified until I had DC1 8 years ago.I was over the moon to have got back into what I have always considered my career ( I am not bright enough to be a teacher).
Then MIL pisses on my chips by saying 'I hear you have a little job'

I said 'yes but not really a little job, back to what I did before'

She said 'no, it's just a little mummy job not too taxing and doesn't matter if you have a few days off with the children'

AIBU to think What the fuck? I worked hard for my qualifications and happen to think supporting children with additional needs is really important. And she should know that seeing as BIL has autism and still lives at home in his 50s because he was not supported to succeed at school.

Waterfalls1 Sat 05-Apr-14 14:44:59

YANBU. Congratulations thanks

humblebumble Sat 05-Apr-14 14:46:31

Congratulations, it sounds like you are going to be a great support to the children in your class.


Sparklysilversequins Sat 05-Apr-14 14:46:59

Silly Cow.

The term "little job" gives me the absolute rage any way angry. So bloody patronising. Would anyone ever say to a man, "hear you've got yourself a little job"? Of course not. Why are women's jobs "little"?

Seminyak Sat 05-Apr-14 14:47:29

Whaaaaat!!!! Unvelievable!! The 'little job' comment on its own would be irritating and patronising but she clearly meant it as she elaborated so kindly hmm

FayeKorgasm Sat 05-Apr-14 14:47:47

Don't pay any attention to her. Opinions like that are not worth the breath used to make them!

I'm a community governor of a special school and am very aware of the vital role TA's play in all aspects of school life. Congratulations on your new role!

hickorychicken Sat 05-Apr-14 14:47:51

Well done on the new job and tell the ignorant twunt to piss off grin.
Just so you know, it is people in your profession that get my family through the week, and make a massive difference to our lives.

Preciousbane Sat 05-Apr-14 14:48:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PaulinesPen Sat 05-Apr-14 14:48:14

'just a little mummy job..' Aaargh that is soooo patronisinghmm Well done!thanks Ignore her.

ilovesooty Sat 05-Apr-14 14:49:00


She's a cow-try to ignore her.

Figster Sat 05-Apr-14 14:49:17

What a stupid cow she is!!

Good for you OP

She sounds like one of these traditional types who never worked a day in her life

juneau Sat 05-Apr-14 14:50:02

I think I'd have snarkily responded 'Yes, it's all my little brain can cope with'. Patronising cow. I hate the term 'little job' and all it implies.

HauntedNoddyCar Sat 05-Apr-14 14:50:56

A little mummy job? Patronizing mare!

Is your MIL Katie Hopkins? Or a successful captain of industry?

YANBU and well done for getting the career you love back up and running.

expatinscotland Sat 05-Apr-14 14:51:03

'As opposed to being sat on my arse doing a little FA like you,' would be my response to her.

maggiemight Sat 05-Apr-14 14:52:26

Ooooh she sounds veeery envious.

Chloerose75 Sat 05-Apr-14 14:52:38

What a bitch shock

Congrats OP, just ignore her rudeness!

WorraLiberty Sat 05-Apr-14 14:53:14

Congratulations OP thanks

She's probably thinking back to the time (when my now 22yr old) was at Primary School.

TA's were a pretty new thing and most of the posts were taken up by Mums, who pretty much took the jobs because they fell in with the holidays. In fact, they needed no formal qualifications at all.

Things have changed massively since then, but it's likely your MIL doesn't realise this.

Try not to let it get you down.

Wantsunshine Sat 05-Apr-14 14:54:01

She sounds like a bitch. What does her son your DH do that is so amazingly important? Is he the PM a CEO?

MagnaCharge Sat 05-Apr-14 14:56:49

Thanks for the congratulations everyone I am really looking forward to getting back to it.

I didn't think I was being unreasonable but sometimes I wonder if I should have more patience with her.

You are right she is very traditional apparently she used to work in a shop before she had her children but never went back and as I said BIL is in his 50s so you can see how long she has done bugger all.

I held my tongue for the children's sake as they love their Nana and she wouldn't dare have said it in front of DH.

Laquitar Sat 05-Apr-14 14:57:39

That was very silly especially as she has a son with Autism.
However i disagree a bit with Sparkly. My dh's has a second job as dj for weddings. Once a month or less. We all call it 'little job'. And i call 'little job' if someone bakes and sells a cake 2 times a year or does a garden once a year. Some people who do this kind of work make a huge dance about it as if they run the country.It is not the same as working 40-50 hrs pw every single week.
Sorry for the rant. I have 2 people like this doing my heaf in.
I have huge respect for TAs though.

Longdistance Sat 05-Apr-14 14:58:54

Yanbu. I've never heard a anything so patronizing in a long time.

Little mummy job, I would have been tempted to poke her in the eye.

WorraLiberty Sat 05-Apr-14 15:00:53

Not working outside the home doesn't mean she's done bugger all though to be fair.

K8Middleton Sat 05-Apr-14 15:03:04

Ignore her. She is probably just a tit like my fil.

He assumed I had organised two days of childcare a week for the purpose of spending time with my "lady friends". Then made a "little job" remark.

I have a professional job too and I think my blue chip clients value what I do, but I just ignore fil and smile sweetly because the alternative is launching into a rant.

melonribena Sat 05-Apr-14 15:03:17

TA jobs are very hard to come by so you have done brilliantly!!

Congratulations! My wonderful TA is worth her weight in gold!

K8Middleton Sat 05-Apr-14 15:03:25

Congratulations on your new job flowers

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