to want to strangle my dh?

[lade73]

I cannot bear the way he squabbles with dd 14 as though they were the same age, sick of stepping in like a referee, he is 41 for the love of god!

[DontCareAboutYourShoes]

Mmm man child. Attractive.

[pinkyredrose]

Ishe her father?

[Comeatmefam]

'to want to my strangle my wife'

Hmmmm...same responses?

[phoolani]

No, not the same responses because the question has a very different context. Last time I looked, women weren't killing men at the rate of over two a week in the uk. I bet you wonder when White History month is, too.

[DontCareAboutYourShoes]

To be fair to comeatme, MNHQ deleted threads like this a few times for not being in the spirit of the site.

[lade73]

He is her father and she is quite intelligent but when she responds to his immaturity he's all "she's not like this with you" . Really? I wonder why? They just make me want to walk out some days. Man child is exactly right. How attractive.

[fairylightsintheloft]

OFGS its obvious the Op is just saying she is pissed off with her DHs way of dealing with the kid..why do some people feel obliged to ignore the point in favour of an entirely different issue. OP yes your DH is being a twat. Mine does it too but DS is only 4!! Only thing I can suggest is talking about it calmly and when there is not an actual row going on at the time.

[lade73]

If i decide to actually strangle him i will let you know, i actually typed kill and murder and deleted them for strangle, bad choice methinks.

[Anonymai]

Only 4 and his dad squabbles like a child with him? Poor kiddo.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

In fairness, it may be that he and your dd are like me and ds1 - as dh used to say, we are very alike, and that meant we could argue for ages, and neither of us would back down - and this is when he was around 15 or 16, so not much older than your dd.

We did eventually get past that stage - he grew up and matured a bit, and I learned to step back from disagreements with him, but it was a stage we had to get through in our own time - and I know it pissed dh off mightily! and he hated having to be the one who acted as the referee.

He used to try to tell me how it was winding him up, and what he thought I was doing wrong, but to be honest, it didn't help much - ds1 and I had to get through it ourselves. We did get through it, and the same stage was much easier with ds2 and ds3.

I know how frustrating it is, but maybe you need to step back, have a few deep breaths and let them grow through this stage themselves. Are they very similar characters, because that can make things hard?

[fairylightsintheloft]

well not really squabbles but doesn't deal with him in quite the calm way that might be appropriate to be fair, DS can be BLOODY annoying!!

[lade73]

They get on famously most of the time, have the same taste in music and stuff but when they argue he is so childish. It is like listening to her argue with a school friend. I am sick of telling him that he is the adult and needs to act like it if he wants any respect off her.

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

Very frustrating OP. I think its a personality thing - are they very similar to each other?

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

Oh, I think you just answered that, sorry

[Nocomet]

I'm sure DD1(16) and me squabble like sisters sometimes. It's never serious, often ends in giggles and a hug. We are generally good friends.

(DD1 is not a teen who pushes boundaries, she generally considers teen attitude an utter waste of time.)

Leave them too it, unless DD tells you she doesn't like it.

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

Anonymai - 14, not 4

[WorraLiberty]

Leave them too it, unless DD tells you she doesn't like it.

This ^^

Although to be fair if she doesn't like it, she'll stop the squabbling from her end anyway.