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to think posting on FB "on way to hospital" etc or tagging oneself at hospital is horribly attention seeking and twatty

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balenciaga Thu 03-Apr-14 20:30:10

<disclaimer> am 9 months preg literally about to pop any minute and very angry at world atm grin hormonal aint the word

friend posted earlier "on way to hospital"

I am normally laid back about fb stuff, Ie couldn't care less re bragging, selfies, vague PA statuses, dirty laundry etc in fact frankly I find them highly entertaining and all my "fb friends" are lovely and rl life friends / family

but this fucks me off for some reason

frankly if it was serious, posting on fb would be the last thing I did. this time last year I miscarried twins and as dh rushed me to a+e bleeding heavily and cramping the thought of fb'ing where I was off to did not even cross my mind

PS not one person has commented on it good

NoArmaniNoPunani Thu 03-Apr-14 20:31:04

YANBU. That is supremely twatty.

formerbabe Thu 03-Apr-14 20:31:40

Did they say why they were on their way?

If they were pregnant and on their way to have the baby then YABU.

ivykaty44 Thu 03-Apr-14 20:32:49

Well I guess it depends why, if they work at hospital then no, if they are going in to have a baby then its exciting, if they are going to visit I can't see the harm

Sirzy Thu 03-Apr-14 20:33:48

Not something I would do personally.

I have posted FB updates when DS has been in hospital though as it is as a quick and easy way of updating people. But that is only when things are calm, or he is sleeping or whatever.

LineRunner Thu 03-Apr-14 20:34:33

I presume people are meant to ask why the person is on the way to hospital and say stuff like oooooh hope you are all right and the FBooker then says stoicly how they are all poorly but queuing up bravely for a plaster on their finger and yes it is all a bit crap.

balenciaga Thu 03-Apr-14 20:36:54

yep linerunner exactly that! hmm

she is not preg and does not work there grin

and did not give a reason why

just pure fishing

DontCareAboutYourShoes Thu 03-Apr-14 20:37:09

Yanbu. SIL did this about her son. Checked in at the hospital. Priorities eh. Facebook was the last thing on my mind when I had to take dd in.

pillowaddict Thu 03-Apr-14 20:37:19

I hate this too. If already in and telling everyone at once that all is ok etc that's different, but the attention seeking X has checked into Y hospital followed by the "you ok?"s and "pm you"s are ridiculous.

feathermucker Thu 03-Apr-14 20:37:25

Entirely up to people what they post; you're not obliged to respond. Sometimes, if someone is scared or worried, then they can access immediate support that way.

Annoys me more when people state how annoyed they are, then refuse to elaborate or say, "I'll PM you!"

Nataleejah Thu 03-Apr-14 20:39:34

When i was in hospital with an injury i was on facebook all the time. Just felt like it really.

thebody Thu 03-Apr-14 20:40:14

attention seeking twat.

on a par with 'so upset a friend could do this'

'what's wrong hun'

'can't say on pm me'

if you can't say don't fucking post

Ponkypink Thu 03-Apr-14 20:40:37

Not really sure what is wrong with people seeking attention when they are ill/injured? Should they just not tell anyone? Some people interact mainly on facebook because they live far from friends/family and find it quicker than phoning everyone. If you don't really care what the reason for the hospital visit was, just don't ask- you're obviously not very close friends or you'd know anyway.

thebody Thu 03-Apr-14 20:41:02

x posts grin

Alisvolatpropiis Thu 03-Apr-14 20:41:44


My Facebook appears to be split in to attention seeking over sharers and normal people.

hazeyjane Thu 03-Apr-14 20:41:46

Likewise Sirzy.

When ds has been in hospital, there is quite a lot of sitting around waiting, worrying and boredom in between the looking after ds, not sleeping and trying to make sure other dcs are ok when they come to visit. Facebooking and mumsnetting fill the time.

I don't have many friends on fb, but am on 2 groups with children with health issues, a lot of these children spend lengthy amounts of time in hospital, and I know they and I have had a lot of support at very difficult times from these fb pages.

Pre FB days I was in hospital for nearly 4 weeks having cancer treatment, god, facebook and the like would have made the stay a lot easier.

usualsuspectt Thu 03-Apr-14 20:43:52

Meh, people can post what they like on their FB.

craftynclothy Thu 03-Apr-14 20:45:24

God yanbu. Someone on my fb posted similar (sounded like an emergency/something serious), resulting in about 6 hours worth of people commenting "Omg are you ok?" eventually answered with "yeah, just a routine check for dd/ds" or some such

balenciaga Thu 03-Apr-14 20:45:56

I dunno

I feel like it would be different if someone posts along the lines of "ouch think I've sprained my ankle, fell over the dog, off to walk in centre"

or if someone knows they are going in to hospital and maybe so do their friends, ie "at hospital for XXXXX appointment, I am soooo bored waiting" that sort of thing

it is the terribly VAGUE, fishing element that irritates me

ps its actually a good friend. am awful aren't I? horrible, horrible friend blush

sazzle82 Thu 03-Apr-14 20:45:58

Not something I would do, however DH did it when we had to take dd to a&e (after we had been triaged and knew it wasn't serious). It wasn't a cryptic post, but wasn't something I would have posted at all. That said we had a 4 hour wait on a Saturday night with a sleeping/crying baby so it gave him something to do answering messages from people etc when it wasn't his turn to hold the baby.

countrybump Thu 03-Apr-14 20:46:34

YANBU. This annoys me too, pure attention seeking. I used to get annoyed at finding out via facebook that someone in my close family was being rushed to hospital. Now, I just try to be relieved that it can't be all that serious if they're worrying about updating their FB status!

thebody Thu 03-Apr-14 20:48:12

vague fishing posts are annoying about anything though really as are dramatic ones. piss me right off.

RedRoom Thu 03-Apr-14 20:50:04

I also dislike that.

The other things I hate are updates such as 'GRRRRRRRR!', 'So annoyed right now!' and 'Today has been awful' (no other info given). I ignore them because if they can't be arsed to spend five seconds adding details, I also can't be arsed to type 'what's wrong?'.

mercibucket Thu 03-Apr-14 20:50:27


i do it with close up gory before n after stitches photos too

there are hours to kill in a and e you know

KeithTheCat Thu 03-Apr-14 20:50:46

something like this came up on my news feed earlier, a friend of a friend, "just waiting on an ambulance cause my lil guy has fallen down the stairs" then lots of "omg he ok?!?!"and her replying.

I was shock

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