I put a previous AIBU thread about moving abroad with children, but have realised I am being hasty.
I am from Manchester but moved to be with my partner when we had a baby (1yo). It wasn't an option at the time for him to move with me as he has a painting and decorating business in Blackpool. He brings home around 500 a week, and the commute from Manchester would have been in excess of £100 a week in petrol (heavy transit van full of tools)
We currently live in central Blackpool - drunks, stag and hen dos, homelessness, poverty, run down, etc etc.
I am becoming more and more unhappy living here and have spent the day in tears (maybe something to do with pregnancy hormones!)
I feel I will never be happy here and do not want my son to grow up in one of the most deprived towns in the UK with a poor standard of education. With another baby on the way, we also need extra room.
We had a financial adviser round who said it would be impossible for us to buy a new house at the moment due to our financial situation.
I have been looking for jobs for him and there are quite a few available £12-£14 and hour. He is very experienced and has all qualifications. This is more than what he is earning at the moment with his business.
I feel that if he is not willing to move, I may have to move out on my own. However hard it is, I just cannot continue being this unhappy and I am concerned about my son growing up here.
I have two AIBU's:
AIBU to ask him to abandon his business and get work with someone else? I understand he is proud, and it has been going around 7 years, but it will be better for the family. It would not be possible to live out of town due to commuting costs, and we hardly have enough money as it is. We missed a mortgage payment this month, and will have to pay double next month.
AIBU to remove ourselves from the property ladder and rent instead? Buying elsewhere is impossible.
Sorry if Im jumbled up, writing through tears!
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OscarandTimmy · 03/04/2014 14:57
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