A 'friend' this morning said I constantly act like a martyr and that it gets on her nerves. We were discussing my dd. Last time she was due to have contact with her dad she had chicken pox so I offered to keep her home as he and his gf have a newborn. I don't know if I've had it myself, and have a toddler too, so she said I should've sent her and avoided it. However, I figured we'd probably catch it anyway if we were going to so no point risking newborn too.
She also ranted about my toddlers birth. I went into labour at 1 a.m. And didn't wake dh (all he'd do was worry) then he went to work as contractions were far apart and work is local. After work we took older dd to dhs mums before going to hospital. I had our toddler at midnight, we drove to dhs mums and dh went to work at 8 while I took our dd to school. He saved his paternity leave for three weeks later when it was school holidays, I was fine with that. Friend said I should've woken dh, insisted he stay home from work, insisted pil collected older dd, insisted dh take his paternity leave immediately or at least have kept dd off school.
She had other instances too, but equally I could say she's high maintenance. When she had her dc2 she had her parents/pil take her to dc1 to and from school everyday for the first six weeks. Her dh had scale down his business for two months and so on. However, I've never said she's high maintenance because I think people should just do what suits them and other people should mind their own business.
Aibu to think she was bloody rude to call me a martyr?
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PuffyPigeon · 03/04/2014 11:33
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