DD was born on Sunday weighing a hefty 10lb 2oz, I had a 24 hour labour but managed to push her out with only gas and air and a small tear. We came home on Monday and whilst I'm sore I'm feeling ok considering what my body has been through.
DS (6) is super excited about his little sister and has been desperate for me to take him/pick him up from school so he can show her off, and I think also for some semblance of normality. DP had been doing the school run but yesterday afternoon I felt well enough and DD was asleep so we popped her in the pram and had a little outing. DS was so happy to see me and DD and proudly pushed the pram home again, the other mums all cooed adoringly and I felt quite chuffed with myself that we'd managed it.
This morning DP took DS to school as DD was up half the night and I was still in my pjs. One of the other mums sidled up to him in the playground and said "not so smug now then". When he asked what she meant, she said "well yesterday was obviously a fluke, you didn't manage to get everyone here this morning did you".
This is a mum who I would usually consider a friend, AIBU to think she could be a bit more supportive, and not call me smug just because I once managed to get out of the house in time for school pick up with a 3 day old baby. It felt like a major achievement to me, and now I feel a bit crap about it. Of course it could just be my hormones on overdrive and I'm being a bit over sensitive?
AIBU?
To think I am not smug?
caledonianclown · 03/04/2014 10:44
No you're not smug at all! It was around the 3 day mark that I managed to get out to school and it felt like I'd won the marathon by the time I got home 
She's being insensitive. A new mum actually getting even the smallest amount of an easy time with a tiny baby does weird things to some people (usually other Mum's), it's almost like you're supposed to feel like shit, it's expected for some reason, usually because they did. I find it quite weird.
Congrats 
No, not smug.
She's a bitch, though. A proper bitch!
I think she needs to be avoided.
How horrible. After having dd I was in hospital for about 3 weeks due to jaundice(her) and infection(me) and as a result felt seriously proud to be up and about the first time I felt well enough, as should you. Some people look for the negative in everything, she maybe felt inadequate as she wouldn't have managed so early and took this to be you 'showing off'. Try to ignore and enjoy your new tiny baby 
Wow! What a biatch ignore her! Not smug at all. Well done and congratulations
Congratulations
How lovely that your DS is so proud of his sister. And it is great for you that you did so well.
Ignore the 'friend', concentrate on the good things.
You were not smug at all! What a horrible thing for her to say. I'd avoid her in future if you can.
Congratulations btw
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I know a few people (step relatives - not friends!) who have that sort of attitude.
I was asked last week how I was coping with a toddler and newborn. I said "fine most days it isn't as tricky as I expected as baby is a good sleeper and toddler has been good with him."
"Oh...but wait until they're both running around then the trouble starts haha"
Same when I had just DD. "How are you getting on?"
"Fine thanks she's a good girl"
"Hmmm...wait til you have two!"
Righto then...
I'm always quite satisfied when people reveal their true colours in this way. You can now passively avoid her and have one less human on earth to take up your mind space.
Congratulations on your new arrival
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