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Have I messed up my DD's schooling, what should I do now?!

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MrsBramStoker Tue 01-Apr-14 03:08:10

Long story short, prefacing by feeling like the worst mother in the world, my DD started school last year in one school, loved it and it really brought the best out in her. It was a multidenominational school, which my mother kept commenting on and had issues about, would she make her communion, etc. it was a small school and very relaxed too. I feel weak for letting a. My own traditions about school effect me and b. my mother. Or maybe I felt it would be good for he to be challenged in a more traditional, structured school? Also, we had to move house anyway as our rented house had huge structural issues with it. We moved across city to be near my husbands sisters and also to a slightly posher area. My dd has to move school. It's more traditional and she has settled to a degree, but was crying and complaining of a sore tummy a few times. Not as outgoing and prefers to come home and watch tv, etc. we don't know any one on our street, etc.
I feel huge regrets about moving her. It's not a crisis but I feel the ethos of previous school suits her. She has option to go to school of similar ethos near where we live. She will also be going to secondary school with these kids if she moved so would be permanent.
Could I move her again? I feel she's lost all her spark and personality and her love of learning? She a clever child so her literacy not effected and is doing great. Her teacher said she seems settled again. Maybe it's just me who has reservations about the school. It's so traditional and catholic. Whereas other school more modern and forward thinking. Am annoyed I couldn't stand a up to my mother! Am losing sleep over this. Please be kind. Otherwise all good at home and in our family. Apart from fact we're trying to sell our small apartment we've rented out and hoping to buy permanent home. All this moving has been very unsettling for all. We also have twin boys aged almost four but are ok as have each other. Thanks for reading and listening as very anxious about it all

AnnieMaybe Tue 01-Apr-14 03:12:53

Well the first question is are you Catholic

MrsBramStoker Tue 01-Apr-14 03:21:51

Thanks for reply!
Well, I am in the sense I was christened catholic, got married in church, went to catholic schools but don't really practise or go to mass. Bad I know

Wurstwitch Tue 01-Apr-14 03:24:54

My eldest child has been in 8 schools.
She's thriving.
She changed school every year for a long time.
It's no big deal.
Just find somewhere you are happy with and put her there.
Children are very flexible. She's very little.

Wurstwitch Tue 01-Apr-14 03:25:25

In a lot of countries she wouldn't have even started education yet.

Wurstwitch Tue 01-Apr-14 03:26:04

(And eldest is now in a catholic school lol. We aren't catholic in any shape or form.)

AdoraBell Tue 01-Apr-14 03:30:38

Why do you feel that not practicing and going To mass is bad? Is that because you want To Go To mass, or because your mother wants you To?

Do you want your daughter To be raísed and educated in a Catholic tradición?

wigglylines Tue 01-Apr-14 03:39:19

If you're confident she'll be happier, you should move her. She's got years of primary education left, and don't forget time seems longer to DCs, better move her now than wish you'd done it in several years when she has totally gone off learning and you blame yourself for not acting when you had the chance.

LibraryMum8 Tue 01-Apr-14 03:48:52

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. I think you should move her if you think she will do better. We moved ds in third grade due to a very far move. We were so worried we wouldn't find anything we liked as much (he did Montessori) but his new school was Way better and he loves it so much more!! She will be fine, as another poster said the sooner the better.

alittlebitbockety Tue 01-Apr-14 19:40:12

Well hard to know. But if you don't like the catholic ethos may be best to move to the other? I guess you are Irish and it is an Educate Together? It will get even more Catholic in the future where you are now when they make their First Communion. Forget what your mother wants -its your turn to be the mother now.

Stripyhoglets Tue 01-Apr-14 20:37:48

Go and look at the other school, see what you think and then make a decision. No you haven't messed it all up, no one has a crystal ball and you make the best decisions with the information you have available at the time.

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