Me and dp have decided to split up/have some time apart. We have a ds six months . We have been together nearly 4 years.
Were just not getting along, nothing major but we both need a break , just going through a rough patch.
About a year in to our relationship, we moved in together and struggled a bit, he lost his job, we were arguing, thought we were going to split up but we turned it around.
About six months later , he had left his facebook open and bobbed out and I went for a nosey. Flame away , but I did. I found that at the time we were going through the 'rough' patch he had messaged several girls eg...
" hi, long time no see, how are you ? Are you still with your bf? "
Two girls he messaged that to, I think one replied yes, they had a brief chat about what they were up to. He dufnt mention me at all .
In my eyes he was fishing .
The third girl, it was clear they had a friendship . He asked if she was with her bf, she said no, he said would be nice for a catch up and asked for her number. She gave it and the conversation went dead.
We went for a meal that night and he never mentioned the conversation or that he had got in touch with an old friend.
When he got back, we had a big argument. I felt he was fishing and apparently the third girl was his 'rock' when he was having a difficult time before he met me.
He swore he did not call her.
Any way last night we spilt up/having time out and fast forward today, an ex from years ago has just popped up on his status that he wrote, I've never seen her in the whole time we have been together write anything on his facebook, didn't even know they were friends .
I've a feeling he has been 'fishing' again.
I'm going to ask him in the morning to let me see his messages when he comes to see ds.
I'm i being out of order .
Tell me if I am.
I just have a feeling that he is.
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To ask to check his phone?
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Catsgotyourtongue · 31/03/2014 22:08
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