DD2 is due to go to same CM as her older sister in a couple of weeks. DD2 is 'special needs' following a virus, but we are still waiting for official diagnosis and prognosis. She's not difficult in any way and is lovely and sweet-natured. I've moved her meds around so CM wouldn't have to give her any. She's no more demanding than any other baby and in fact is easier than her sister (non special needs) was!
Ages ago I arranged a couple of settling in half days next week but CM has now given me back word on this. It turns out that she has Ofsted visiting and doesn't feel she can give DD2 attention along with dealing with Ofsted although she is happy to still have DD1. When my DH picked DD1 up earlier he obviously must have shown he was unhappy, and CM has now sent ME a shitty text - it was only in this text that we found out about Ofsted - even though I wasn't there. I'm back to work in 2 weeks and I really wanted DD2 to have settling in sessions (as did the CM at the time) and now I feel I will have to drop her with a virtual stranger and go back to work. Apart from this I'm worried that CM wants to 'hide the disabled child away' or something (DH has put this idea in my head and this has really upset me).
I've no idea how to feel about any of this or what to do long term. DH is massively pissed off. I need to reply to the shitty text but no idea where to start as I don't do confrontation and feel I need to smooth things over between DH and CM but I feel quite wronged at the moment so not sure what to put.
Do the mn collective think the Ofsted excuse is viable and should I just say I understand (which is what I would do in my non-confrontational keeping the peace type way) or is CM being unreasonable and should I send an equally shitty text back which would potentially escalate things with the person who looks after our oldest most precious thing and will soon look after our youngest most precious thing?
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IWorshipSatin · 31/03/2014 20:04
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