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AIBU to feel sad at my 3 yr olds feelings about her healing chicken pox spots...

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Bananapickle · 30/03/2014 20:30

My 3 yr old is recovering from chicken pox. The spots have now scabbed over and so I excitedly told her life was going to finally resume as normal tomorrow.
She has a toddler gym class on a Monday and initially she was very excited but then she said she needed a mask. I asked why? She answered that she didn't want her friends seeing the spots on here face.
I'm feeling so sad that she's so self conscious. My DH and I aren't at all. I don't even wear make up or really talk about my looks so now I'm worried about where all this is coming from.
AIBU to feel this way? She's only 3 :-(

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PacificDogwood · 30/03/2014 20:34

Yes, she's only 3.
She'll be fine.
And do wear make-up if you want (I am saying this as somebody how never does ).

One of the most difficult things about parenting is to accept that other than loving them and being there for them, there is very little you can do to make you children different from what/who they are.

So she's a bit self-conscious. She is aware that currently she looks a bit different from others. Reassure her, talk about how different does not equal worse and move on.

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Bardette · 30/03/2014 20:53

Did she understand why she had to stay away from her normal activities? Three year olds can get funny ideas and if she thinks the spots were the reason (rather than being infectious) that may be why she doesn't want people to see. Or have other people been making a big fuss of the spots?
I would be very surprised if she was self conscious because she thought her appearance was 'marred' by the spots.

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WooWooOwl · 30/03/2014 20:58

At three, her self consciousness will not be anything like that of an older child or adult.

It could just have come from knowing that she had to stay in because she had spots, or because she knows a fuss has been made of the spots.

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Bananapickle · 30/03/2014 21:04

Thank you for the replies. It just caught me so off guard. We did say that she couldn't go out as her spots might make people poorly so I guess that could be influencing her.
I think it was just the way she was saying she didn't want her friends to see them that got me worrying about it.
Probably me just being over sensitive.