I feel like I'm working hours and hours every week (PT with extra jobs takes me to about 0.8 plus more in my own time to keep up). DM is ill and MIL is unwilling, so I have no help with childcare, then there's the household stuff including hours of fucking laundry every weekend. DH absolutely pulls his weight but the DCs are bad sleepers so we lose hours to that. I also commute 1hr 40 a day which eats into my family time. Locally the picture in my field is redundancies, so there is very little likelihood of finding a job here. We hoped that by moving here it would ease childcare pressures a bit but MIL having had a change of heart, that hasn't happened. I know I sound bitter I am but I do recognise that this is our problem, not hers. We're unable to work out a way of taking her out of the equation re the small amount she does now because of the childcare situation in our rural area, but really we need to.
Even though we've not long moved and would incur a penalty on our mortgage, estate agent and solicitor's fees and already have a modest debt because we had to replace a car last year, I'm sorely tempted to sell up and rent. That way, even though we couldn't afford for me to leave my employed work, I could perhaps ease off on the extra things and move somewhere with a shorter commute. I would be moving further away from my beloved DM but I am actually seeing her less now than before as I simply don't have the time. Most importantly, I could spend more time with my DCs before they really start to grow up.
We would end up in about £15k of debt, which would take us a couple of years (at least) to pay off. WWYD?
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KeepCalmAndLOLKittens · 30/03/2014 19:18
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