I rang my mother today and she mentioned that a good friend had died.
I asked whether she was going to the funeral, and she said no she didn't go to funerals any more.
Thinking back I'm not aware of her having gone to any since my father died 5 years back - and have no recollection of her having mentioned attending the funeral of any friends for a long time.
She has a health problem which means she has to go to the loo frequently - perhaps every hour, and perhaps more often if she's feeling anxious or unwell. Apparently at the last friend's funeral she did go to, it became necessary for her to leave the service and use the toilet. And ever since then she she won't attend funerals.
I was rather shocked, as I'd assumed that the wish to say a goodbye to friends and mourn collectively would take precedence over the social embarrassment about not being able to last out. Obviously if you don't suffer from bladder difficulties, it's hard to empathise fully with the practical complications. (But I would have thought locating the loo in advance and picking an aisle seat near the back, would make most things possible.)
But I thought I would ask other people - maybe some of who have similar difficulties - what they think?
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HarrietSmith · 30/03/2014 18:57
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