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To be fed up with selfish changing room behaviour

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Lambzig Wed 26-Mar-14 13:24:21

I expect I am, but it is giving me the rage.
The changing room at our swimming pool is communal with lots of smaller than a toilet sized cubicles .

There are just two larger changing rooms which are labelled as for users with disabilities and for families. These are the only ones with a baby changing drop down area or bench. There are no bench areas outside of the cubicles, so its the cubicles or nothing. There are signs saying disabled users should be given priority, fair enough.

I take DD3 for her swimming lesson and take DS, 16 months swimming at the same time every week. Every time I go now, the 2 larger changing rooms are open, but reserved by towels and clothes being left all over the surfaces and baby changing area and pushchair in the middle. I am pretty sure it is the same two culprits who seem to be in the pool for at least an hour each week, with their children in lessons, leaving the rooms unusable by anyone else.

Yes, I know its murderous trying to change two children and yourself in one of the smaller cubicles and obviously I do not know if the people reserving the rooms have a disability, but I think its unutterably selfish of any user to occupy the rooms for an hour and stop others using it.

Other people are really fed up with it too.

I complained to staff, and they agreed that it was not OK to do that, but didn�t feel there was anything they could do about it other than put a sign up which is ignored.

I know the centre should have better facilities too, but it�s a local one and unlikely to get massive funding any time soon.

I am so tempted to just grab their stuff and shove it in one of the lockers not accidentally dropping it in the wet part of the changing room floor and just use it. AIBU?

steff13 Wed 26-Mar-14 14:19:14

I would just load it all onto the buggy and push it out of the cubicle.

This is exactly what I would do. I wouldn't throw their stuff on the floor, no matter how much I might want to but I wouldn't hesitate to stack it all on the stroller and sit it outside the cubicle. When they get out of the pool, they can use the cubicle. They don't need it while they're swimming.

StrawberryGashes Wed 26-Mar-14 14:21:53

Ali maybe they're in a similar position as I am and her daughter has a disability of some sort? I can't imagine a nt 13 year old wanting their mother to change her.

JohnCusacksWife Wed 26-Mar-14 14:29:12

Can't believe people actually do that! I'd pop it in the pushchair and park it outside. Hell mend them.....

Mintyy Wed 26-Mar-14 14:30:27

Didn't we have this same question yesterday?

Buckteethjeff Wed 26-Mar-14 14:38:48

I work at a Lesuire Center and this goes on allllllllllllll the time!

Just move it.

Cubicle wars, lane swimming wars, shampoo wars, locker wars it's endless!

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 26-Mar-14 14:48:48

Strawberry there are disabled changing rooms if that is the case, and I don't think I have ever seen them all full.

I don't think she has SEN, she washes her own hair in a shower cubicle with a door - her mother stands outside and shouts at her through the door and opens it occasionally to tell her to hurry up.

Artandco Wed 26-Mar-14 14:52:13

Yam - yes of course I have. Have x2 ds's 16 month apart. Plonk eldest down, change youngest, swap.
I understand its annoying but it isn't the end of the world. Most countries I travel to haven't even got a changing table in any toilets/ pools/ shops. The whole country seems to survive.

balenciaga Wed 26-Mar-14 14:54:43

Yanbu I'd sling all their shit out and use it, but I'm mean grin

Piss takers

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 26-Mar-14 14:55:10

Art what does the other one do while you change one? My two would both have made a dash for the door/side of the pool. Utter non-starter.

Lambzig Wed 26-Mar-14 15:01:12

You have all given me bravery. I shall move their stuff next time. Might make them think twice.

There is no communal area to bung them on the floor. There are corridors with lockers on one side, cubicles on the other, so you end up with them in the cubicle, you sitting on the floor outside in the corridor, getting them dressed on the towel (fair enough) while they both try and charge off and people try to get past you. Its then you have to squash them up in the cubicle while you get changed and they try to escape, scream, try to roll around on the wet floor etc. All doable, but flipping annoying when there is an empty changing room with a toddler chair, a changing mat and a bench which is technically empty.

Sorry if this is a repeat of one yesterday. Seems there are selfish individuals everywhere.

Lambzig Wed 26-Mar-14 15:03:07

oh and DS has run off and jumped into the paddling swimming pool while i was wrangling with the eldest. He doesnt do standing still atm.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Wed 26-Mar-14 15:05:40

Please move it and then come back and tell us what happened.

Changing cubicle threads - the younger sibling of parking threads: smaller but often just as enjoyable. smile

icanmakeyouicecream Wed 26-Mar-14 15:12:34

I would put their crap in a locker, absolutely.

Yamyoid Wed 26-Mar-14 15:16:45

Art, my point is the same as Ali, I agree that a changing table isn't a necessity, but having the space to lock a toddler in with yourself and other dc/s is.

drspouse Wed 26-Mar-14 15:49:38

Oh and don't get me started on people who think that their shoes are pristine and clean but that other people's shoes are dirty and horrid.

This leads to the conclusion that they couldn't possibly take off their shoes at the entrance (in case they have to walk on the floor where other people have walked in shoes, in their bare feet - oh wait - everyone has to do that to get to the swimming pool).

MaryShelley Wed 26-Mar-14 15:55:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Oldraver Wed 26-Mar-14 16:30:53

Leaving the pushchair in there will make it easier for you to get rid of the clothes out of the changing room.

You have to do it or thye will never get it...I actually cant believe people just walk away when they see clothes in a changing room...just move the clothes

Smilesandpiles Wed 26-Mar-14 16:49:33

I used to have this problem to but after reading several threads about this exact same thing I gathered the courage to take the clothes and dump them outside.

The woman came back with her kids while we were getting changed, bangging on the door shouting at me that "I don't touch her stuff" so I shouted back " You don't reserve the changing rooms".

She went to complain about me but ended up getting a lecture from the managers about leaving belongings in places where they shouldn't be. (overheard as she was still outside the door).

I was shaking afterwards as I HATE confrontation and the kids were nervous about it too but I felt better for it and I've never had to do it again.

Gracelo Wed 26-Mar-14 16:57:03

Someone does that at our local pool, same situation, only 2 family changing rooms available. I take the dc swimming Sunday mornings and it's the same family that leaves their stuff in one of the changing rooms.
Two Sundays ago I get there after the shower and there are 2 more families waiting for a changing room, one room was in use the other with the stuff of 4 people piled on the benches. I was so annoyed I stormed in there and swiped all their stuff to one side, luckily noticed the two sets of glasses on top of the pile of clothes, didn't really want to break their glasses, and we got changed in there nevertheless. The dc were really worried the people would come back and be angry but I was so ready for a fight, I was quite disappointed they didn't make it back before we were done.
I just don't understand why they think this is right and what the row of lockers is for.

Lambzig Wed 26-Mar-14 19:27:13

Ok, next Tuesday I will put my "don't mess with me" face on and move their stuff. I will report back, I promise.

I genuinely don't think I need it more than anyone else and if others are in there, fair enough. But I don't think anyone should get to tie it up unused for an hour, particularly as it's a shared facility for those with a disability and leaving used nappies around is horrid behaviour.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Wed 26-Mar-14 20:32:08

AFAIK there isn't a quota on disabled people at the local pool, more than two are allowed so it would usually be unreasonable for them to keep their own personal changing rooms.

I agree with the advice to put their stuff in the push chair and then eject it, taking it to reception if required.

HelenHen Wed 26-Mar-14 21:32:59

I'd actually enjoy moving it! Like on holiday, I went to the beach and all the chairs were taken up by towels with no people around. I took that to mean I could have my pick of them smile . Once somebody came back and said 'that's our toweo'clock and I just llooked at them like they were idiots and went back to my book. It felt good!

HelenHen Wed 26-Mar-14 21:33:51

Not sure where the o'clock came from lol. They said 'that's our towel'

Lucylouby Wed 26-Mar-14 22:39:56

I remember this happening where we used to live. Dds swimming lesson, the same family used to leave their stuff in the family changing room for the duration of their lesson. There was no where else to change dd so I thought stuff them and went in the cubicle, didn't touch their stuff, but changed dd. while we were in there they came back and I made them wait. The mother was fuming as she couldn't get to their stuff, but their was always a queue for changing rooms and she just didn't get why she shouldn't leave her stuff in the cubicle. The next week she left her stuff in the cubicles again and having seen me annoy her, other people started to use the cubicle too and after a few weeks she got the hint and started using the lockers like everyone else.
YANBU to move her stuff and use the cubicle.

Iggi101 Wed 26-Mar-14 22:51:45

Full of righteous indignation from reading such threads on mumsnet, I was once about to go into a changing room full of stuff and liberate it - the woman and dcs were literally a foot in front of me getting the rest of their stuff out of the locker blush I managed to back away before she noticed (I hope).

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