Dd is 7, her sister is almost 2. Dd1 has always shared and played nicely with other children, she's always taken turns and been polite, usually being over generous or kind so people like her.
However, with dd2 she's the opposite. Dd2 adores her and went running into her room this morning, saying hello to her only for dd1 to snap: 'don't even think about getting in my bed.' Dd2 and I turned to get ready, dd1 ignored dd2 when she asked if she was coming. Dd2 was playing with teddies when dd1 came in and started whinging that dd2 had one of hers. It was a teddy I'd found at the bottom of a toy box that dd1 has ignored for at least a year. She pretended to play with dd2 then slowly sat on said teddy and sneaked it into her pyjama top so she could hide it from dd2.
Dd2 started crying because she couldn't find it and dd1 pretended she was clueless. It sounds petty but it's constant little things that build up. Sometimes she's great and if dd2 asks for something she's got she finds her something else she'd like instead rather than just saying no. But then other times I'll be getting dd2 dressed and dd1 will whinge that I never help her but always dd2. I do give dd1 one on one time but find her meanness to dd2 hard to see.
I was discussing it with a friend and said I'd reward kindness but punish meanness in dd from now on as I believe she's capable of playing nicely with dd2 if she can play nicely with friends of all ages. My friend said I'm being unrealistic and should just get used to this as it's what siblings are like. Aibu to think that's unacceptable?
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PuffyPigeon · 25/03/2014 12:42
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