This is probably more a wwyd but it looks ever so quiet in there!
The facts:
I am 12 weeks pregnant, and have ds who's 2.5. I'm a SAHM.
Dh works very hard in a good job and earns good money. However, he works long hours, often has a massive commute (we live in the midlands, close to his family, but he spends a lot of time in London) he is usually away at least 2 nights a week. He has hated his job for a while now, his boss (who owns the company) is, shall we say, somewhat eccentric, very demanding of dh, and frequently ridiculously unreasonable. Dh (and a number of his colleagues) have very serious concerns that the company may go under soon.
Dh has been approached re a new job. He hasn't had an offer yet, but he has been for an interview and is fairly sure that they would like to make him an offer. New job is just what dh would like to do, massive and very secure company, regular hours with v little travel, excellent pay. Oh..... And based in Dubai.
He has been looking for other jobs in London/where we live, but has not found anything comparable to either the potential job or his current role.
Dh wants to go to Dubai. However, he's basically said its up to me, as I'm the one who'd have to make a new life over there.
I don't want to go. I'm terrified of losing family support, my friends, of having a baby abroad, of being so far from everyone, of trying to sort out a life for ds over there. this is not helped by the fact that I've been so sick and so tired for the last 6 weeks or so now and feeling like utter shit form the pregnancy. Also terrified of having 2 and being all alone abroad - I find it hard enough with 1 sometimes!!
In addition, it would break my mums heart, my brother already lives overseas. She and my dad are divorced and she is on her own.
I also have dsd8, and I don't think dh has properly thought through how that would work either.
I know it may all be irrelevant, there has been no offer as yet, but dh is supposed to be meeting someone v senior in the company next week, and is talking about cancelling it as I'm obviously not keen.
I don't know what to do! I am considering suggesting that I stay here and see how that works to begin with.... I don't think dh would be very happy with that though.....
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No idea what to do or say for the best re move overseas....
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