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Is it unreasonable to not RTFT all the time, especially when there is 100+ responses

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ImaLooney Sat 22-Mar-14 09:18:59

And I just want to answer the original post. A few times I've had a flaming for not RTFT when it was too long. Is this unreasonable for AIBU posts?
I do read some but not all depending on the post.

As a fairly new user here, what is your personal top etiquette rule on a forum such as MN?

shakinstevenslovechild Sat 22-Mar-14 09:21:13

I have the ops posts highlighted and always read through them, I don't often read everyone elses posts though.

Forgettable Sat 22-Mar-14 09:24:48

Do RTFT or you run the risk of lumbering in saying your now-irrelevant piece and looking a twat


do what you like eh

SanityClause Sat 22-Mar-14 09:25:32

Often an OP has updated or clarified, so answering only the OP may not be appropriate, and in fact, will just lengthen an already long thread.

Nanny0gg Sat 22-Mar-14 09:25:48

It is pretty useful to at least read all the OP's posts and probably the last few that have been posted by others as posts and information can be quite fast-moving in long threads, so it's handy to be at least relevant.

I doubt many read every post.

FunkyBoldRibena Sat 22-Mar-14 09:26:32

I also have the OP's posts highlighted and then move on if the situation has been sorted.

MrsDonnaLyman Sat 22-Mar-14 09:27:06

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Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Mar-14 09:27:18

At the very least read all the OPs post otherwise you are in danger of looking v stupid. Especially in AIBU when the OP does a total U Turn half way through the thread.

If you haven't got time to do that don't comment.

Nousernameforme Sat 22-Mar-14 09:27:20

If it's a long one then i have to really want to answer to make me read through you usually find that after the first few posts someone has made the point that you were going to make anyway

Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Mar-14 09:29:10

People who have obviously not RTFT usually show themselves by being very harsh and judgemental about the subject. Not realising it's all gone off on a tangent about something else.

MrsDonnaLyman Sat 22-Mar-14 09:29:30

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LtEveDallas Sat 22-Mar-14 09:30:03

Yep, I absolutely think that you should RTFT no matter how long it is. If you can't be bothered to read 100 posts, or 200 posts or 900 posts then why on earth do you imagine that whatever it is that you want to post is even relevant to the discussion.

I think it's arrogance - what you are about to post has probably already been said by 50 other posters - what makes your post more important?

If you don't RTFT, don't post.

Stokes Sat 22-Mar-14 09:30:38

Fine not to read all replies. You should read all the OP's posts though.

meditrina Sat 22-Mar-14 09:30:39


You need to read, as a minimum first page, last page and all OP's posts.

Threads turn in the middle sometimes, and there is nothing more annoying that someone who has clearly missed all the major plot developments.

WhoAteAllTheCremeEggs Sat 22-Mar-14 09:30:39

How do you highlight ops posts?

90sthrowback Sat 22-Mar-14 09:31:48

<<applauds LtEve>>

I think it's arrogance - what you are about to post has probably already been said by 50 other posters - what makes your post more important?


Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Mar-14 09:32:17

It's in 'Customise' Who. For me the OP is green and I am purple.

shakinstevenslovechild Sat 22-Mar-14 09:32:22

Who if you click on customise at the top of this page you will be able to do it from there.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 22-Mar-14 09:33:18

It's one of my pet hates on MN.
I've seen some long threads that have been totally resolved on AIBU with the OP actually admitting she was wrong, then loads of idiots still post having not RTFT and continue flaming.
Many threads change direction half way through, and you just end up looking like an idiot.
At least highlight the OP's posts and read them.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 22-Mar-14 09:35:03

Also agree with LtEve (mostly) - if the thread is that long, your point has probably already been made, discussed and modified.

Different if it's a chat-type "tell me your favourite biscuit" thread but even then I'd probably read the first page, last page and OP's posts in case of a massive tangent into biscuits that soothed you during a personal trauma.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sat 22-Mar-14 09:36:21

(And of course if someone has posted "AIBU to ask you your favourite biscuit?", half the posts are probably "get this moved to Chat!" anyway grin)

AphraBane Sat 22-Mar-14 09:36:57

You must at the very least read ALL the OP's posts. It can sometimes be very distressing for an OP otherwise.
I once remember a very difficult thread about termination, OP clearly in a desperate state. She hadn't realized one very important fact in her OP. The first few answers corrected her misperception, she said thanks. Then you got a whole bunch of people who'd only read the OP giving the same answer again and again, while the poor OP got more and more distressed and begged those people to stop. It wasn't bullying because it wasn't deliberate or even cocaistently from one person. But the effect was the same for this OP, all because some posters were just too damn lazy to RTFT or at least the highlighted OP's posts. It was quite shocking. Seriously, if you don't have enough time to invest in a thread, just don't reply. Especially if it's on a sensitive topic.

Chippednailvarnish Sat 22-Mar-14 09:38:30

Why would you want to comment on something you haven't read? Bizarre.

everlong Sat 22-Mar-14 09:38:33

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goodtimesinbontemps Sat 22-Mar-14 09:38:45

If I didn't have this place customised so op threads are green and mine are purple I wouldn't bother reading anything longer than a page smile. For the really long threads I skim over the pages mainly just reading the op posts and a few others that catch my eye (short ones lol)

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