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AIBU to be getting irrationally possessive over my side of the bed?

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Jolleigh Sat 22-Mar-14 00:00:55

Ok, I'm 9 months pregnant and horrifically uncomfortable anyway so there's definitely an element of just being a crabby cow here. Be kind!

I'm not the kind of person who wants a line down the middle of the bed but when DP severely impacts how much space I have to get cumfy while he's awake, then falls asleep and is impossible to move, I could quite happily sit there and cry. He actually moves bits of me so that he can get cumfy and cuddles up really close so he's more or less in the middle of the bed with his limbs pointing my way. While he's awake and we're both comfortable, there's no issue - would I come across as hugely neurotic if I asked him not to cuddle up to me while awake because I'd like to have more than the very edge of the bed to fit myself and my enormous belly on once he's asleep?

It's not like there are even any warning signs that he's nodding off. He sleeps at the drop of a hat. I on the other hand already suffered from insomnia, am a stomach sleeper who can't sleep on her stomach and have to share a bed in good grace with a bed hoarder who snores like a fog horn from the second he falls asleep until the second he wakes.

Sometimes he steals my pillow from under my head in his sleep too angry

I've had about 12 hours sleep in the past 4 days. If I just had a bit more space to get comfortable and didn't have a belly stuffed full of baby then I'm sure I could increase that.

We don't have a big enough house for separate beds and I'd feel horrible evicting him to the couch.

apologies for the angry, irrational pregnant woman vibe that I'm certain I'm giving off

SylvanMuldoon Sat 22-Mar-14 00:04:17

I'm also heavily pg and not adverse to giving DH a big shove and telling him to move! Or poke him in the ribs. Or put a pillow over his head. not really but I've been tempted

scarletforya Sat 22-Mar-14 00:08:15

Here's a grip. Send him to the couch. He's lucky you haven't murdered him yet.yadnbu.

CointreauVersial Sat 22-Mar-14 00:11:26

YANBU. You poor thing; I think I would have committed murder by now.

Have you got room for a bigger bed?

Jolleigh Sat 22-Mar-14 00:36:39

No room for a bigger bed either sadly sad

I think I do need to grow a pair and send him to the couch once in a while when it gets too much.

I'm sleep deprived enough right now that I agree with him being lucky I've not murdered him. I laughed semi hysterically the other day at my own answer when he asked me why I wasn't waking him when he was contributing to a nightmare night: "because if I go into labour, you're going to need to have had some sleep." I may cope much better than he does on little sleep but even I realise it's gone too far when I'm more concerned about his energy levels while I'm giving birth than my own.

trappedinsuburbia Sat 22-Mar-14 00:38:44

I just used to climb over him to where there wss more space or end up on couch.

MrsTerryPratchett Sat 22-Mar-14 02:09:48

Can't you cuddle on his side of the bed, then stretch out when he falls asleep.

Fefifo Sat 22-Mar-14 03:10:27

Being nine months pregnant renders you incapable of being unreasonable on such issues. Don't feel horrible by evicting him to the couch. Comfort yourself in the knowledge that At nine months pregnant he'll be more comfortable on the couch than you'll be in the bed, even if you're there by yourself?

Grokette Sat 22-Mar-14 06:24:17

I'm not pregnant and you are still not being unreasonable. It's become so much worse for me recently as DH is now working away for about a third of the month, so when he comes back I am livid with rage at having to share a bed again.

Do not touch me with any part of your body when I am trying to sleep. Do not attempt to be 'affectionate', do not put your legs on my side, do not snore in my ear, do not come near me by any means at all if you value your bollocks or your life.

Now I just shove him and say "Can you please give me some room?" He usually half wakes, snuffles, and moves a bit.

I think it's from having young DCs crawling all over me for all hours of the live-long day.

puntasticusername Sat 22-Mar-14 07:29:56

You're nine months pregnant and about to give birth, then head into months (at least) of night wakings. Whether or not your DP plans to do any of the night feeds, YOU absolutely need to tank up on as much sleep as you can. NOW! There's not much time left! Put him on the couch and don't look back!

I've a three-month-old baby and if I could return to where you are now, there's not a chance in hell I'd be putting up with any sleeping arrangement that was likely to deprive me of even a single second of precious rest.

Hmm. That turned out to be quite heart felt, didn't it? smile

Jolleigh Sat 22-Mar-14 08:49:42

I got 4 hours last night grin

Admittedly, those were reclined in my nursing chair rather than in the bed and I had ear plugs in covered by ear muffs...but it was more sleep than I've had at once in weeks.

To the poster who suggested climbing over and getting behind DP instead (sorry - I'm on my phone so can't scroll back to your name while writing) I had debated it but am a bit reluctant - I've suffered from insomnia since my early teens so my 'sleep hygiene' is always high on the agenda. Not that sleeping in a chair is particularly good for that but I was just so shattered.

He's being kicked to the couch tonight...I've had more frequent braxton hicks since about 6am so I think it's time to rest up!

puntasticusername Sat 22-Mar-14 11:29:31

Nine months pregnant and getting "more frequent Braxton Hicks"? Hmm. Yep. I think now would be an excellent time to rest. And maybe take a couple of paracetamol... wink

tiredoutgran Sat 22-Mar-14 12:12:20

Not at all unreasonable, I went out and bought a SK bed to try and keep him off my bit - truth is, the WHOLE bed is MY side of the bed!

BrokenToeOuch Sat 22-Mar-14 12:16:15

YANBU at all, but this > Sometimes he steals my pillow from under my head in his sleep too made me laugh a bit, bastard DP does this to me too!

We too ended up caving and buying a superking a few years back now. We are both greedy bed hogs and can now lie in bed, roll over and stretch out without touching each other if we want to! It's great!

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams Sat 22-Mar-14 14:24:40

I remember my aunt and uncle were re-doing their bedroom and were going to have new furniture. They very seriously debated having twin beds grin

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