I am 22.
I was bullied at the age of 14 in year 9 by a group of girls who branded me a lesbian and spread rumours about me to the whole class ( academic all girls school) . Everyone used to be friends with everyone and it was a whole class thing.The girls who I thought were my friends did nothing and didn't stand up for me when I needed them the most. I felt they had chosen them over me.
I remember walking in the changing room and everyone stopped talking.said it girl actually looked at me and laughed.I was the overweight and shy child- I didn't say anything to the group but this hurt so badly, I couldn't trust anyone in my class and I was angry at myself for letting this happen.I spiralled into depression and self harm and was so desperate to belong.
I stayed at that school till I was 16 as it was academic my parents didn't want to move me as we had already started gcse work. I spent those two years feeling so worthless and was sick.I had no self confidence and developed anxiety about talking to strangers and eating in front of others.
It has been 7 years since I left. Yes it doesn't hurt the same but I have accepted things.
I started a degree in biomedical science and am finishing this year but have BEEN offered a place at medical school!!!!
I truly want to rub it in their noses- I have some girls from my class on facebook but want to add others just so they could see my public message along the lines of saying thank you to everyone who made my life hell at 14 - couldn't be here without you.
Or should it just leave it?
AIBU?
To consider doing this (revenge related) ?
California123 · 21/03/2014 23:23
Haha I dare say I'd do it!!
I'm maybe not pick them out of it as such by saying about people who made your life hell.
I would simply post to celebrate the news in a very positive tone, none of this "thanks for being shitty" type stuff 
Everyone else has said to leave it haha 
but I do get furious with people like this because I'm so nice and would never intentionally hurt someone, so because I don't understand why they do it I get very frustrated.
Personally I'd post it but just celebrate your achievement without the bitterness
Like the poster above me said why do you have them on Facebook.
If you really feel like you wan them to know I would possibly add them, do your post then either block and delete them or use the unfollow button so you can't see them
I recently unfollowed a group of morons I was once friends with and my happiness has sky rocketed. Really I should delete Facebook altogether but we will see....
"Best revenge is always a life well lived".
"Getting better mentally after betrayal is always more constructive in the long term than getting bitter".
"Success has many fathers, failure is always a bastard" 
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Quotes from my late father, who suffered some truly terrible setbacks and betrayals over his life time, but ALWAYS bounced back.
If you keep thinking about them then they still have a hold over you, you need to beat this and forget about them. Easier said than done I know, I still think about the people who bullied me. I think about how they turned me into something I wasn't. How they made me fight back to stop them from hurting me and I turned into this violent girl I wasn't supposed to be.
You've done excellently, don't let them continue to be an influence on your life 
If you're going to get revenge, at least think of something juicier than that
Honestly, they'll barely notice, let alone care. Chances are many of them turned out to be quite well rounded individuals if it was a full class worth of the little shits. Try not to carry so much hatred for them around with you - I also got bullied a lot so know that's easier said than done.
The best thing you can do is make the best of yourself.
And of course, you can then relish the moments in the future when you're treating one of them for something really embarrassing
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