I don't have strong feelings about pink as colour. It's fine. It looks nice on flowers. It goes well with some colours. I even wear it on rare occasions.
I do dislike the way pink is engineered towards girls in a way that it most definitely was not when I was small (I'm 40). In fact, I think it's fairly insidious.
My daughter is 3 and a half. She LOVES pink. She thinks it's the best thing since sliced marshmallows. I know full well why she likes pink - because it is marketed relentlessly at her - and that is something that really pisses me of, as a feminist.
However, because my DD does love pink, I let her choose it. I let her wear it. I buy her non-pink stuff as well, after all, I'm her Mum and I hold the purse-strings.
However, I also let her have a say in how she presents herself to the world. And how she wants to present herself to the world is currently via the medium of the colour pink.
I just know though, that there's a sizeable sub-set of people who see her judge me as one of those Mums, who dresses their DD head-to-toe in pink and thinks they're their very own little sparkly princess.
Which couldn't be further from the truth.
I just don't want to tell my DD at such an impressionable age that what she likes is wrong, or that her preferrences are to be over-ridden by my principles at all cost. I might not love pink, but she does, and so shouldn't she be, if not actively encouraged in that, then at least acknowledged and supported in it?
I also don't like the idea of telling girls and boys that there's something wrong with femininity (and by extension, with girls and women), which I think actively discouraging pink might do. Sort of in the way that it's right-on to dress a boy in pink, but it's sneer-worthy to to the same to a girl.
I know it's a phase and that she will grow out of pink. But AIBU? Should we be doing more to stem the pink tide?
BTW, this isn't something I hand-wring over. I know it's just a colour. I've just dropped her off at Kindy and had yet another conversation with a Mum where the fact that she is dressed in pink has cropped up.
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JapaneseMargaret · 20/03/2014 22:50
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