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"I don't do boy babies"

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ShadowFall Tue 18-Mar-14 15:52:19

I am feeling very annoyed at the minute and not entirely sure if I'm being a bit oversensitive or not.

I'm currently on maternity leave after having DS2, who is now 6 months old.

Today, I had to pop into the office. I was able to leave DS1 in nursery, but took DS2 with me as had no childcare for him.

While in the office, several colleagues came over to say hello, have a quick chat, and some of them were cuddling / playing with DS2, as is fairly common when small babies visit the office.

One colleague, who I saw today for the first time since going off on maternity leave, came over. She said hi to me, then looked at DS2, and asked if he was a boy or a girl (he was wearing gender neutral clothes).

I said he was a boy... and she said "I don't do boy babies." I was a bit confused hmm and wondering if I'd misheard her, so said "Excuse me?" and she replied "I only do girl babies." and walked off.

Now, I could understand it if she was too busy to stop and look at babies - she's paid to work, not socialise, after all. I could also understand it if she'd said that she didn't do babies at all - I know some people are worried about babies puking / pooping / crying at them, or are just disinterested in other people's babies.

But the bit about not doing boy babies? The implication that she'd have been interested in him if he'd had the good grace to be a girl is infuriating angry

DS2 is 6 months old. Too young to be showing any preference for stereotypically male things. Too young for her to even been able to tell whether he was a boy or a girl. Yet because he's got a penis, she thinks that he's not good enough for more than a second glance angry

AIBU to be feeling so insulted here?

WTFlike Tue 18-Mar-14 15:54:43

She's an idiot.

dustarr73 Tue 18-Mar-14 15:54:51

What a sap,dont let her take up any more headspace.Yanbu to feel insulted but look at it this way,its her loss.

CailinDana Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:14

YABU. She clearly has serious issues and I would feel a bit sorry for her tbh, not insulted.

akachan Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:28

I think you are BU unreasonable to be insulted, the woman is clearly on glue.

NewtRipley Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:37

She has very strange attitudes. Try not to take it personally. Horrible rude woman.

Congratulations on your beautiful boy baby

TheBody Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:42

silly mare. best just laugh and say '

it's ok my son doesn't do idiots so that's good'

Fakebook Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:56

Weird! I can only think she's young free and single and childless and has no clue about any type of baby. confused

Yanbu to feel insulted, but I wouldn't give it a second thought. Some people are just weird.

Canidae Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:59

Odd woman and bloody rude too! Perhaps she has a fear of male genitals? hmm

NewtRipley Tue 18-Mar-14 15:56:15

akachan grin

I've not heard that phrase for a long time

hiddenhome Tue 18-Mar-14 15:56:25

Gross immaturity.

RegularVoltaire Tue 18-Mar-14 15:56:52

She probably wanted a boy and is jealous. Ignore.

ShadowFall Tue 18-Mar-14 15:57:20

Nope, not young free and single and childless.

In her 40's, married, with 2 DD's.

GoatsHaveStrangeEyes Tue 18-Mar-14 15:57:23

When ds was born someone said to me "I don't usually like little boys but yours is actually ok".

She was also disappointed when she found out her own daughter was having a boy.

FiftyShadesOfGreen Tue 18-Mar-14 15:59:04

I honestly wouldn't allow the opinions of someone so clearly idiotic to get to me.

sheeplikessleep Tue 18-Mar-14 15:59:38

Agree with Regular

RegularVoltaire Tue 18-Mar-14 15:59:38

"Married with 2 DD's"


She's jealous.

ChaosTrulyReigns Tue 18-Mar-14 16:00:36

Sounds like a defence strategy to me. She's possibly gutted she didn't have a boy and the only way to stop the hurt is to create this pretence that boys are do very erring hair her.

Just enjoy your lovely boy.


Fakebook Tue 18-Mar-14 16:00:42

Oh my goodness. So she may be jealous she didn't get a son? My sil wanted boys and ended up with 2 girls. She was spiteful and rude to me when my DS was born. Then she had her son 10m later and became less bitter and more competitive.

The world has has strange and horrible people in it.

wordsmithsforever Tue 18-Mar-14 16:01:28

I think I read this tip in Anne Robinson's ^Memoirs of an Unfit Mother^: Every day you will meet a jerk - when you do, don't be upset, just smile and think to yourself 'Ah, this is today's jerk'.

ChaosTrulyReigns Tue 18-Mar-14 16:01:41


So very wrong for her.

I wish I could type.

Kewcumber Tue 18-Mar-14 16:02:40

I find it helpful when people say things like this so you can tell the unpleasant people quickly without having to take any effort to get to know them.

YuccanLiederHorticulture Tue 18-Mar-14 16:02:42

TheBody Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:42
silly mare. best just laugh and say 'it's ok my son doesn't do idiots so that's good'

^ this...

crispyporkbelly Tue 18-Mar-14 16:03:07

Was just going to write jealous!

happyyonisleepyyoni Tue 18-Mar-14 16:05:17

What a rude woman. I had a colleague who commented that she was pleased she had never had children, when I announced I was expecting DC 1. Jealous as well!

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