WIBU to say something to DS1 teacher about this?

[NewLisaLife]

Or should I keep my beak out?

DS1(7) told me at tea time tonight that one of his friends - lets called him T, had only a sandwich and a chocolate bar (chocolate biscuit) for his packed lunch. T has a brother, who also had the same for his lunch.

DS1 gave him his crisps and his chocolate biscuit out of his lunch so T wouldn't go hungry, his other friend also gave Ts brother his crisps and a biscuit from his lunch so he wouldn't go hungry.

I know the boys mother - not well but well enough to stop and chat to in the playground or if out in town I'll say 'hello, how are you etc etc?' So don't want approach mother iykwim?

WIBU to mention this to DS teacher?
DS thought id be mad that he gave away some of his lunch but I'm actually quite proud that he and his friend gave them some more food so that they wouldn't go hungry.

[AuditAngel]

Perhaps that is the amount they would normally eat?

[NewLisaLife]

Also must add that Mum doesn't seem the type to not 'care' if you understand, she's very organised and seems like she's into healthy eating etc. I've spoken to my friend about it and she said I should mention something to DS teacher as it's not like the Mum at all.

[NewLisaLife]

No DS says he normally had loads to eat in his packed lunch and I can recall DS coming home in the past saying Ts had this today can you buy some for our packed lunch etc etc

[indigo18]

Only a sandwich and a chocolate bar? Sounds ok to me. Most of the children at the school where I work seem to survive on a sandwich eaten on the hoof and a cake or crisps.

[thegreylady]

It depends how big T's sandwich was and what was in it. Two slices of bread with ham and salad followed by a Twix or similar would be adequate whereas one slice of bread and jam folded over and followed by a chocolate digestive wouldn't. I wouldn't mention it to anyone but you could give your ds an extra bag of crisps if you liked.

[vestandknickers]

Wow, calm down. Maybe she just hadn't had time to go to the shops. It's not as if she'd just sent him in with a dry cracker and a pickled egg.

[Menolly]

perhaps there is a dietary reason you don't know about or they just aren't big eaters, it's lovely your DS shared but really a sandwich and a chocolate biscuit is hardly going hungry, that's more than DD eats most days, no matter how much I put in her lunch box.

[JackNoneReacher]

So T has all sorts of different things in his lunch bag but today only had a sandwich and biscuit. Don't see the problem.

However I know at the school my dc's go to they are strictly not allowed to share food at lunch ( I presume due to allergies etc). I'm surprised if they don't have similar.

[PansOnFire]

I'd wait and see if it happens again, if it's happening regularly then I'd speak to the teacher. If you do speak to the teacher you should focus on the fact that your child is not having the food you give him because of it, if there is an issue with the amount that the other children have been given then it will come out when the teacher looks into it.

It could be that T wastes his lunch which is why mum has reduced the amount she's been putting in. Don't say anything straight away but if it happens again then it won't hurt.

[BookABooSue]

I wouldn't mention it to the teacher. Lots of dcs have a similar amount for lunch. Plus you don't know if they had eaten more food earlier or if they're having a day with no crisps for Lent or if their dm was just rushed off her feet/ill and hadn't managed a big shop this week.

Ds, on more than one occasion, has come home with stories about dcs in his class who have eaten all their food at first break and then everyone has to donate something so they can eat at lunch

[Dilligufdarling]

Sounds like it was a one off a maybe T's mum had one of "those" mornings (and probably feels bad about it already I'd she's usually the healthy eating sort.)

I'd say nothing and ask your DS tomorrow.
One off-day for packed lunches is not something I'd be telling the teacher about.

[Dilligufdarling]

Love the fact that your DS gave him some of his though - he sounds like a poppet :)

[Only1scoop]

I wouldn't speak to the teacher because dc class mate doesn't basically have any crisps in his lunchbox....

[WorraLiberty]

What's wrong with a sandwich and a chocolate bar?

His Mum could have been fed up of sending him with extra food that he doesn't eat.

Remember it's supposed to be a light lunch as they'll be running around or doing PE straight after.

Also, he might have a large breakfast in the morning and then a cooked dinner as soon as he gets home.

[indigo18]

I don't really see what you are concerned about. A sandwich and a biscuit is plenty for a seven year old; maybe an apple or banana too would be good, but maybe she just hasn't shopped. Dsis and I survived on a fish paste sandwich and an orange for lunch every day for YEARS.... nods sagely...them were the days. And we were strapping teenagers.

[Floggingmolly]

A sandwich for lunch is fine.
We've gotten into the habit these days of sending kids in with a complete buffet in their lunchboxes, but lots of adults only have a sandwich at lunchtime without either fainting from hunger or suffering from malnutrition.
I'd mind my own business here, tbh.

[Layl77]

I would've been delighted at getting a chocolate biscuit when I was 7, it was a sandwich and apple for me. You could make a joke of them swapping lunches to the mum?

[Silkyandmoonface]

As a regular lunch it may not be the healthiest but as mentioned above it is impossible to judge without knowing the exact content ; as a one off, I suspect the teacher would think you were over reacting completely and really interfering. It is hardly neglect! Do you expect the teacher to call the parent in to discuss it?

[staticdust]

My DD only has sandwich and an apple, only sometimes she will also have small packet of raisins, we need to watch her weight.
Point being you don't know reasons behind it, so no I would not talk to teacher about.
In our case teacher is aware of the situation, sandwich with good feeling, fruit and bottle of water should be enough to tie a child until supper time, providing breakfast was nutritious and not just bowl of sugary cereal.
I see no need for crisps, chocolate bars in lunch box, it is all poor nutrition food anyway, nothing but sugar.

[LittleprincessinGOLDrocks]

Maybe she was just having a bad day? Or maybe her kids just waste the other food she normally packs so she didn't bother to pack it?
Or maybe money is tight? Or maybe that is all the child wanted?
At the end of the day the mum packed her child a lunch, and it doesn't sound that bad to be honest (depending on the size of the sandwich). Unless the child was noticeably hungry I don't think the teacher will do much.

[NewLisaLife]

Yes true I suppose. She could be fed up of sending food in ad him not eating it. I know I've done it and stopped sending ds2 yogurts in the past

I'll leave it for now and see if DS mentions it again, he always sits with same friends for lunch.

[staticdust]

I agree with Worra DD has double swimming first thing on Wednesdays and we have ben asked not to overfeed DC's on those mornings, swimming/exercising does not mix well with large meals.

[rosy71]

I don't see what's wrong with a sandwich & a chocolate bar. It's not the best lunch but it's hardly starving him. Your ds must have had loads if he could spare crisps & a chocolate biscuit.

[NewLisaLife]

No he had a Ham sandwich, chocolate biscuit, banana, yogurt, crisps, mini roll and 3 cherry tomatoes

[gimcrack]

The lunch sounds fine to me. What does the boy look like? Is he rake thin? If not, then he isn't skimping on food.

I quite often give my sons a roll with lots in it and fruit for lunch. And they have a big breakfast and dinner.