My eldest dd has just turned 18 and seems to spend quite abit of the time telling me her mother that she is now an adult and that she do what she likes. I try without fuelling an arguement if I can to tell her that despite being 18 she is still living w us and her younger sister so needs to abide by house rules including telling us where she is and coming home when she says rather than 3 hours later sometimes like last weekend coming in at 6.00am. I feel abit at sea with it all not quite knowing the rules at this age as she is older enough to vote, have concentual sex get married etc but it still very young in some ways. She has always been abit rebellious but at younger age have been able to impose sanctions such as grounding her for unreasonable behaviour but feel she is beyond grounding now what do others do
leavecthem to it or impose sanctions if they don't come home etc when they say.
We seem to go up and down with it but there are times when she seems very rude and unreasonable this was the case on her 18th birthday following a heavy night of partying probably smoking some dope into the equation. I couldn't reason with her and she looked miserable all day she said it was because I was being horriblec to her (I was also v tired as been up from 3-6am texting her intermitantly to find out where she was etc) I thought itvwas more than that but couldn't exactly put my finger on it (we have had another episode recently) sye always vents her anger at me rather her father who takes a much more laid back approach (which I find difficult to do in these situations) I am worriec she is smoking cannibus on a more regular basis than shecis admitting to us. I know she smokes roll ups and have had a few times when she has behaved quite strangely and last weekend I found a small stash in her room but have not confronted her about this as don't want her to shut the door and not tell me anything. We had a candid conversation about her drugs and she admitted she did smoke weed as sheclikes the affectvof being high but does notbdo ketataine which seems popular at present. I feel rather naive as I expect she has been smoking thecdope fof much longervthan we realise. Any advise about of the concerns raised would be v helpful
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teens at 18 what to do about curfews and the envitable drug problem
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delia63 · 11/03/2014 23:27
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