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AIBU to think this is a bit off

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Fusedog Sun 09-Mar-14 22:13:58

I heard of people begging asking for money instead of gifts for weddings however I was just on Facebook and saw a woman asking for us to prof read her wording for her 3 year old invite

asking people not to being gifts but to give cash instead

wtf can't people just be happy there getting anything and if you don't want it then tell people to come with nothing

AIBU

PomBearWithAnOFRS Sun 09-Mar-14 22:39:12

Suggest the following verse: -
<clears throat, assumes Shakespearean attitude, declaims>

I am a grabby mother, my babe is nearly three,
We don't want gifts for birthday, I just want gin for me,
So please be kind to mummy, and give the baby cash,
If you are going to be attending
His 3rd birthday bash

<takes a bow>

Chasdingle Sun 09-Mar-14 22:42:21

isn't half the fun of a kids birthday them opening the pressies most of which you think are crap but they love!!

EducationalOldie Sun 09-Mar-14 22:44:36

I was instructed not to bring a present but to contribute to a pony fund for a 2 year old once, apparently a pony was what she really really wanted hmm

PerpendicularVince Sun 09-Mar-14 22:45:20

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StrawberryCheese Sun 09-Mar-14 22:45:23

<gives pombear a standing ovation>

OutragedFromLeeds Sun 09-Mar-14 22:46:53

I don't mind cash requests for older kids, but for a 3 year old it does seem a bit off. Maybe they just don't have room for loads of plastic tat? Asking people not to bring anything NEVER works so cash is a good compromise.

PomBearWithAnOFRS Sun 09-Mar-14 22:53:12

<pops back for curtain call then retires gracefully to bar to sip gin and regale folk with tragic anecdotes a la Tom Jones/Gyles Brandreth>

PerpendicularVince Sun 09-Mar-14 23:08:32

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BlackeyedSusan Mon 10-Mar-14 00:54:08

encore, encore

lessonsintightropes Mon 10-Mar-14 01:14:28

Chucking belated flowers at [bears]

AgaPanthers Mon 10-Mar-14 01:32:14

We are sending out this invitation,
And hope you'll join our celebration,
We feel sure you'll understand
That kids' toys we cannot stand

The drum kit made a nasty din
And Barbie dolls are fucking grim
The lego bricks they hurt my feet
And Play Dough is no good to eat

When you meet again our little tot
You'll surely therefore share our thoughts
That this little brat is spoiled enough
But Mum and Dad don't have much stuff

We ask you then in thought and deed
To show how much you are agreed
And give us just a pound or twenty
For Tennent's Special Brew that's plenty!

NatashaBee Mon 10-Mar-14 01:45:44

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PomBearWithAnOFRS Mon 10-Mar-14 08:10:26

Aga
<bows at the feet of the Mistress of Odes>

formerbabe Mon 10-Mar-14 08:25:19

Wow...I can't beat Agas!!

And so its come to that time of year,
And here's the thing that we really fear,
More rubbish, more tat, more plastic crap.
So please dear parents, can't you see
A little lot of cash would be great for me!
My child will be three and a parties not free.
Its not polite but I'm really quite tight
So dig deep on the day
Having children does pay!!!

I'm no poet laureate!!

Fusedog Mon 10-Mar-14 08:36:58

It's just really poor tase I don't know any 3 year old that would rather have 1 arge gift that lots and lots of little ones

worldgonecrazy Mon 10-Mar-14 08:40:36

That is a bit off - YANBU.

Our daughter has too many toys, so we simply said "no presents please".

Eatriskier Mon 10-Mar-14 09:34:28

YANBU - but I really wish I'd thrown DD a 3rd birthday party just to use poms poem and see how many people noticed!

cdwales Mon 10-Mar-14 09:41:58

Yes agree EXCEPT in those cases where the birthday person has become obsessed with the bike/pony! Otherwise it seems a bit creepy...

sebsmummy1 Mon 10-Mar-14 09:46:50

The problem with asking for money over gifts is you force the person to contribute more than they want/can afford. Many people will shop in places where you can get toys cheap or buy stuff in the sales and store in a present cupboard for birthdays/Christmas.

They might be able to give a gift that's worth twenty quid for a fiver, however if they have to give money it will likely be twenty quid out of the pot set aside for foods or bills.

I think it's rude and grabby personally.

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