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To be not too pleased by this comment?

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MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 16:24:46

Just met some new neighbours today. My 5yo dd was very excited and chattering away like mad to them.

"Glad mine isn't the only one with verbal diahorrea."

Wasn't said in a nasty way, but didnt come off jokey, either. I didn't really like the comment. I mean, dd is a chatterbox; she does talk a lot but I prefer to say that as opposed to the verbal diahorrea thing. I would prefer to hear that from perfect strangers, too.

I guess the neighbour could have been nervous and/or it just popped out ...

Anyway, AIBU?

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 17:36:04

put a different tone on it and yes it can be ofensive.. your basicvally saying you talk shit, your stupied.. to me any way.. thats why i class them both the same.

but i also register that it can be light hearted.. but one that is normally said between friends, not some one you just meet.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 17:37:44

and i think thats what i dont like about it the most.. the sense of being over familer on the first meeting..

Coffeethrowtrampbitch Sat 08-Mar-14 17:40:55

Offensive. But then lots of people think it's OK to talk to children like shit.

At least you know not to waste any more time welcoming them to the neighbourhood.

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 17:45:27

WanderingSoul and didl have said very well how I feel about the term and why I felt weird about what my new neighbour said.

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 17:48:20

Whoops wondering

Coffee, yes, it'll be a passing 'hello' from me from now on. Friendly, but not friends. I will however, not dwell on what was supposed to be a small-talk comment (I think. I still don't like it, though.)

pumpkinsweetie Sat 08-Mar-14 17:49:59

It's a jokey quote, I really would not be offended by that.
Don't most 5yo's chatter away for britain, I know mine does!

LaGuardia Sat 08-Mar-14 17:52:11

If your new neighbour MNs, then you have just made an enemy anyway confused

CorusKate Sat 08-Mar-14 17:54:29

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

natwebb79 Sat 08-Mar-14 17:59:56

Bloody hell, you've actually judged them based on one light-hearted non-offensive (really!) widely used term?! Think they're probably better off making friends with less uptight neighbours...

Thetallesttower Sat 08-Mar-14 18:01:34

It was a jokey, trying to bond type of remark. Obviously it failed, not sure this will count as a loss to them tbh, I would hate to watch what I said around a new friend.

BubaMarra Sat 08-Mar-14 18:05:48

YUNBU. Too blunt, specially if coming from a complete stranger.

TwoJackRussellsandababy Sat 08-Mar-14 18:07:43

I say things like that and half an hour later realise it might be taken in a different way to the one I meant! I'm sure they didn't mean anything bad

anchories Sat 08-Mar-14 18:10:21

You dont know her enough yet to know either way.

Nanny0gg Sat 08-Mar-14 18:10:45

yes, it'll be a passing 'hello' from me from now on. Friendly, but not friends
So, possibly very pleasant people have been damned because of one off-the-cuff jokey comment?


FabBakerGirl Sat 08-Mar-14 18:11:46

Friendly but not friends? Really? Seriously? All because she said her child and yours both have verbal diarrhoea. Blinking heck.

Yet you said you were checking because you can be over sensitive and you will forget about it. You managed that for 1 hour 21 minutes.

comedycentral Sat 08-Mar-14 18:13:41

Wouldn't be offended no, especially not enough to post on mumsnet.

Euphemia Sat 08-Mar-14 18:16:40

I teach P1/2 - I've yet to meet a 5 year-old that didn't have verbal diahorrea! grin YABU!

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 18:17:19

Haha, yes, the 1hr 20 mins comment is true grin Sorry, complete contradiction.

She probably meant nothing by it; I will cut her some slack when we next speak. To be fair, with neighbours I like to say 'hello' but don't like popping in for tea/them coming over. I value my privacy at home.

Honestly, I'll try not to hold the comment against her but I might be a little wary for a while.

missymarmite Sat 08-Mar-14 18:20:05

YABU. It's a little lighthearted jokey comment, and if you are going to get insulted by every little remark like that, perhaps it would be better to remain a hermit and avoid people altogether, for their sake at least.

Here, have a biscuit

MolotovCocktail Sat 08-Mar-14 18:23:30

A biscuit? Really?

You utter arsehole!

adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:28:44

OMG 'wary' - why on earth do you need to be wary of her? She didn't tell you she was a member of a weird cult and ask if you fancied joining. She didn't blow fag smoke all over your pfb or ask you where the neighbourhood dealer lives. She didn't start effing and blinding. She made a mild comment about your child being a chatterbox like her own (a comment clearly designed to try and bond and build friendship), which you seem to be deciding to be offended about based on the fact some posters on MN have also said they find it offensive.

You have zero reason to be offended.

wonderingsoul Sat 08-Mar-14 18:29:19

and if you really want to dumb it down..

chatterbox = talks alot

verbal dioreah= you talk shit that is of no importance, which said about a young child is just a bit mean bassically, by not using the nicer " chatterbox" you are applying an insult.

i just dont see the need to belittle or embrasse some one like that.

its funny h ow people see words/ sayings differently.

bellablot Sat 08-Mar-14 18:30:44


adoptmama Sat 08-Mar-14 18:30:50

Neighbour commenting OPs child has verbal diahorrea = offensive.

OP calling a poster 'you utter arsehole' apparently ok


FastWindow Sat 08-Mar-14 18:32:10

nocomet here's Carol Vordermans mnemonic for 'diarrhoea'



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