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To think that a child deserves the same respect as an adult when queuing?

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shallweshop Fri 07-Mar-14 20:48:31

I took DS to McDonalds for lunch after his hospital appointment today. He wanted to get his own ketchup from the dispenser so I watched him queue up politely behind a mum who was helping her child get some ketchup. As the woman before him finished, he stepped forward for his turn and this bloke just leaned right over in front of him to get the ketchup. It just made me a bit cross - you wouldn't do that if it was another adult in the queue before you - why to a child?

ChasedByBees Fri 07-Mar-14 20:50:48

Some people are just complete tossers. Sorry you met one of them today.

SylvaniansKeepGettingHoovered Fri 07-Mar-14 20:56:36


I totally agree with you OP. Some people are so rude.

Taz1212 Fri 07-Mar-14 21:06:21

YANBU at all! One of my strongest memories as a child visiting Edinburgh was being sent to the local chippie to get fish & chips for our supper. The chippie would serve every single adult in the shop first and would only serve me when it was otherwise empty. I hated it but was only 10 and not confident enough to say anything. I used to tell my mum but she would just shrug and say that's how things were sometimes.

ilovesooty Fri 07-Mar-14 21:08:54

YANBU. He was rude.

pancakesfortea Fri 07-Mar-14 21:09:46

This winds me up no end! Happens to my kids all the time.

ThreeBeeOneGee Fri 07-Mar-14 21:16:04

This happened to DS1 twice recently.

The first time was in the green-grocer: there was only one customer in front of him in the queue, but when the owner had served this customer, she then chatted to her for ten minutes while DS1 stood waiting to be served.

The second time wasn't a queuing issue, but DS1 went to buy some eggs from our local convenience store so he could bake a cake (we already had the other ingredients at home). The owner asked DS1 if he was buying the eggs to throw at people's houses! shock

caramelwaffle Fri 07-Mar-14 21:34:07


Lora1982 Fri 07-Mar-14 21:34:49

I didnt get any respect of the boy who jumped infront of me in the queue at mac d's todaysad

Syrupent Fri 07-Mar-14 21:40:45

YANBU, vert rude , your poor Ds. When I was a child a Vicar did this to me in the ice cream queue!!

Dubjackeen Fri 07-Mar-14 22:01:23

YANBU. If there is a child ahead of me, in a queue, I make sure this doesn't happen, e.g if they are a bit hesitant, or don't realise they have been called, and someone is trying to push ahead, which I have seen happen, I will say, to the child, you are next, and make sure they get served in their turn.

shallweshop Fri 07-Mar-14 22:01:49

Lora - see, it's up to us adults to teach our kids manners and respect. Sorry this happened to you but maybe the boy was sick of grown-ups doing it to him?!

FrancesNiadova Fri 07-Mar-14 22:06:30

I'll be 46 soon & I want to know when, oh when, I'll be able to push into queues & be abusive to teenagers grin!
YANBU, (but I was for that terribly ageist joke hmm)

peaz Fri 07-Mar-14 22:11:58

This happened to a boy in Asda. He was about 13 and he was waiting for one of those fast scan tills to become available. I had just finished and a woman totally ignored the queue (only boy in the queue) and jumped straight onto my till. I told the member of staff but he was totally disinterested. Boy heard me and thanked me but he did look rather pissed off and who can blame him?

slithytove Fri 07-Mar-14 22:14:09

YANBU. Why do adults expect children to have manners if they don't demonstrate them themselves.

Misspixietrix Sat 08-Mar-14 07:44:12

YNBU. Seems children aren't the ones who Need to do the learning sometimes.

BobPatSamandIgglePiggle Sat 08-Mar-14 07:48:33

Yanbu - I'm a gobby cow though and would have gone over and asked the man what he was playing at.

Well done for teaching your child to queue, hope the rude man doesnt put him off.

Kittymalinky Sat 08-Mar-14 07:56:57

I have a very clear memory of being about 5. My mum had taken me out for a special day and let me choose a crappy plastic tat bracelet and let me queue up and pay for it on my own.

Just as I got to the counter a woman just pushed in front of me, once she had everyone else did. I was so upset and still remember it now.

I do wonder if they thought I was with someone else though and didn't realise I was being a grown up and paying on my own.

Victoria2002 Sat 08-Mar-14 07:58:29

My pet hate is at our local indoor play area where little ones get distracted in the que for the rides, they hang off the fence watching the ride while mums aid/encourage their kids to bypass the distracted ones in the que. Makes me so cross-mean to little kids and a bad lesson about queuing for the big ones.

MummyPig24 Sat 08-Mar-14 08:08:38

Yanbu. How will children learn respect if they aren't shown any? That man was an arse.

WelshMaenad Sat 08-Mar-14 08:22:32

Dd (7) has started queuing up to pay for things herself, and I hover at a discreet distance to make sure people don't push in front of her.

Disrespect of children generally winds me up though. I got a bit PA and snippy with some rude bint in Sainsburys last week, who instead of asking dd to move out of her way, just physically shoved her way past her, nearly knocking her over. I bet she wouldn't dream of doing that to an adult. What I actually wanted to do was shove her back but it wasn't the good example I should probably be setting for the kids!

NewtRipley Sat 08-Mar-14 08:28:42


I really remember people pushing in or leaning over me when i was a child buying my weekly comic.

I watxhed a womean try and push in front of my DCs and their friend at the swimming pool a while back. It was the first time they were going alone and I stood back to let them get on with it. When I pulled her up on it she said her excuse was that there were 3 of them and 1 of her.. My response: "so you pushed in in front of 3 people!

I firmly coached my DCs after that to watch out and speak up politely, because adults will sometimes take advantage.

NewtRipley Sat 08-Mar-14 08:30:51


You are right. dometimes children are a bit dozy and hesitant, and they need us to stand up for them or encourage them.

TamerB Sat 08-Mar-14 08:32:56

It used to upset me as a child that I could be queueing in the village shop and when it got to my turn they looked over me and asked the person behind- luckily they generally said 'I think that little girl was next' which forced them to serve me.
I always say the same now because it still happens sometimes.

WanderingAway Sat 08-Mar-14 08:39:12

How fucking rude.

I am known amongst my family and friends for my hate of queue jumpers. Doesn't make a difference if they are a child or an adult. If you hear 'excuse me there's a queue' it will probably be me. grin

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